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Already for a long time it is no secret to anyone about the existence of a huge number of different dating sites on the vast Internet. Moreover, the topics of these sites can be completely different and the goals of these sites can sometimes be absolutely opposite. So, if on one site you are offered to find your soul mate in order to live with her, grow old and die in one day, then on another site you can find yourself a girl for one night, without obligations, and sometimes even without real names. and if you're lucky, even free. So why is it becoming increasingly difficult on dating sites to meet a girl with whom it is possible to build a real relationship, even considering the fact that the number of different dating sites and applications is growing every year?
The content of the article
- 1 Inequality
- 2 Inflated expectations
- 3 Presentability
- 4 Too Much Focus
- 5 Fakes
- 6 Perverts
Unfortunately, there is no single answer to this question, especially in the modern world. And here it's all about the Internet itself. Or rather, more and more people begin to experiment in it, try something new, try to make money, appear as someone else, and some, and vice versa, show their real essence. But first things first.
In the early 2000s, the Internet began to spread massively in Russia. Various sites began to appear for communication, viewing photos and videos, listening to music. Messengers began to spread, allowing you to communicate with the interlocutor almost without delay, and various file sharing and forums appeared that collect people from certain circles of people. At the same time, dating sites began to appear.
The essence of a dating site is pretty simple. A person creates his own profile on it, indicates his first and last name. Makes a small description about himself, what city he lives in, what he does, where he studies or works, what he likes to do in his free time. Indicates who is looking for, for what purposes, may be desired preferences. Also, a rather big plus on a dating site is photography, it is desirable, of course, that it be real and good. Then the user can start getting to know each other himself, looking at the pages of other users, rating or liking their photos. Can add friends and write messages. If everything went well, then he can arrange a meeting, well, and then how lucky. This is a pretty general and standard way dating sites work. But there are other options for the operation of such sites and applications. For example,the search principle can be presented in the form of pop-up accounts of other users from your region. That is, you go into the application, and it simply shows you different users of the opposite sex, which you can like, write, add as friends or just skip. Also, there may be an option where the same principle is implemented, only a little time is given for viewing and thinking. There are options where you just enter your data and preferences, and the site itself offers you options based on this.there may be an option where the same principle is implemented, only a little time is given for viewing and thinking. There are options where you just enter your data and preferences, and the site itself offers you options based on this.there may be an option where the same principle is implemented, only a little time is given for viewing and thinking. There are options where you just enter your data and preferences, and the site itself offers you options based on this.
And yet, why on dating sites, with such an abundance and variety of them, has it become almost impossible to find a soul mate? Of course, on the Internet, you can find a huge number of reviews that people met through a similar site and have been married and love each other for five / six / eight / ten years. And that may very well be true. But in such reviews, the key point is precisely that they met there already more than five to ten years ago. As the practice of some regulars of such sites shows, and there really are such sites and have been on some sites for more than 10 years (apparently everything is really bad in their life), now the percentage of girls and guys registered on sites and in dating applications has changed dramatically and dramatically … So, if in 2006-2010 there were about 35-45% guys,now there are more than 60% of them. And the competition is growing accordingly.
The second big problem, in addition to changing the percentage, was that girls register on sites for no reason. Of course, they understand everything, they want to find there a prince in a white Mercedes who will take them to the land of dreams and fantasies about the longest eyelashes and beautiful nails, and some Vasya Pupkin, a welder from the factory, knocks on their friends. But no matter how comical this situation may look, for the most part it happens.
After watching beautiful films about love, and after rereading all the books about shades of gray, the girls live in dreams of a rich guy who will fly by helicopter to their backwoods and take him to a large mansion on the seashore. And accordingly, if sometime soon, you will be seen on a dating site so rich, then of course you cannot start dating some ordinary guy from the next yard who fell in love with you at first sight and composes poetry for you. So the poor girls sit, waiting for a picture of some Brad Pitt to like them.
This is a fairly simple and common problem on modern websites, affecting both men and women. Imagine you are the average person deciding to create a page on a dating site. Write your first and last name, indicate the city and date of birth, give a description of what you do and what you like. Let's even suppose that you are very smart, kind, erudite, love classical music, and in general the most enviable groom / bride. Great, the next step is to add a photo, and here is a profile that no one will remain indifferent to. But suddenly, a huge "BUT" appears. All your photos are either you and your friends, or against the background of the carpet at home in the bedroom, or somewhere on the beach with your eyes closed. Well, here you have decided and put the most normal of all that was, even mastered Photoshop in order to correct the shortcomings a little.But what do you see when you visit the site? Thousands of photos from expensive photo shoots, faces of models and breasts of porn stars in half a photo. Photos from expensive resorts, near or in the coolest cars, brand names of equipment. Well, how to compete with such rivals? And what is the chance that with all the abundance of such interesting and rich specimens, your profile will be chosen?
Too Much Attention4
The next problem, also associated with girls, but resulting from the actions of men, is an overabundance of attention. The fact is that over the years, the guys constantly wrote to the girls with a request to get acquainted. Sometimes it was even simple mailing lists, from the respondents to which the guy chose the one he wanted to meet. And apparently the girls are used to this attitude, and now if you can't come up with an original greeting, then most likely with a simple "Hello, let's talk?" no one will notice you.
There is another opinion on the same problem. The fact is that there are many people on the Internet who are not shy about expressing their perverted fantasies. Every day from such copies, dozens of messages come to absolutely different girls like: "Will you give a blowjob?", "Throw intimate pictures", "Come on virtual" and so on. Moreover, it makes no difference to them how beautiful the girl is, or how ugly. They often write this to everyone indiscriminately. And if we don't talk about beautiful girls with princess syndrome, then even not very pretty girls who know this stop responding to simple guys just because they constantly raise their self-esteem with such vulgar and stupid requests that they start thinking: “Well, time offer, then a beauty."
But why write and offer such a thing, if not a single normal person will answer this, or even send it to hell? - you ask. And all because for a hundred or even several hundred such messages, there will be at least one girl who will say: “come on,” otherwise so many people would not offer it to everyone.
One of the biggest problems with modern dating sites is fake accounts. Unfortunately, almost half of all female accounts on virtually all websites and apps are not real. It's pretty easy to tell them apart. A fictitious or too common name and surname, like the same Vasya Pupkin, Petrov, Ivanov and so on. Little or no description. And the most important thing is the lack of photography. Instead of a photo, a picture from the Internet, or a photo is too frank. It is difficult to say exactly why such accounts are created. There can be many reasons. Perhaps these are accounts through which they sell something forbidden, maybe on such accounts they will demand money from you for photos and videos of an erotic nature. Some may offer paid love services.In any case, the number of such users is growing every day. And if according to statistics there are about 40% of girls from the total number of users, then there are even fewer real accounts from them.
It has already been said about such people earlier. But it will not be superfluous to repeat and reveal this problem in more depth. The thing is that the Internet provides a kind of anonymity in communication. any person can call himself anyone and do what he wants. And at times, tracing an account to a specific person can be quite problematic and difficult. This is used by people with mental health problems, or just all sorts of strange perverts. And the most harmless of them, of course, will be the simple sentences "Give a blowjob" or "Have sex on the phone." And God forbid the girl to agree at least just to send him her intimate photos, even just so that he would stop writing. After receiving such photos, he will begin to blackmail her, demanding money, otherwise these photos will be seen by all her friends, parents and the entire Internet.
Another kind of perverts are strange men who register on the site under a female profile and meet men. Communicate with them, and sometimes even have some kind of sex over the Internet. On the one hand, of course, they do not seem as dangerous as the rest, the only ones who fall into this category, but on the other, they can really fall in love with some gullible man, and what will be his disappointment when he finds out that everything this time I corresponded with some fat and pimply man sitting in front of the monitor, all day in a dirty shirt and in chips from chips.
Well, and, perhaps, the most abnormal, sick and one might even say criminal personalities are men who register on dating sites in order to get acquainted with some minor child. They can act like the first type, creating a beautiful account, presentable young man, getting to know some little girl and begging for her intimate photos from the bath. They can create a real profile and persuade children, both boys and girls, to meet them in some cafe, and then go to their house to watch cartoons. And all this was facilitated by the Internet, or rather the anonymity provided to them.
So why is it so hard to find a soul mate on dating sites? It turns out that out of about 40% of women's accounts, half are fakes offering to buy intimate pictures, another third are girls who are waiting for their prince, and the second third are either girls with low social responsibility or men are perverts. And there remains only one third of the remaining half of the real accounts, real girls ready to meet in order to possibly build relationships in the future. But until you find the one that turns out to be real and also fits your criteria, you will review more than one hundred, or even a thousand pages.
In general, you need to give up the idea of finding a girl through the Internet and dating sites. In the modern world, searching for your soul mate via the Internet has become something like buying an iron. You write what parameters you need and wait, consider options. Or you sell yourself like some kind of car on Avito. You write about yourself, mileage, how many accidents were there, whether the interior was smoky, how many owners according to the passport, and you wait for some person to be found who agreed to see, or even try for a test drive. It's time to start going out, meeting the old fashioned way, in parks, shops, museums or clubs, and leaving dating sites completely to perverts. Let them have fun with themselves there until their hands get tired.