Unpromising Relationship: Top 10 Signs

2023 Author: Miles Ford | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-08-25 09:40

Life, unfortunately, does not give any guarantees. Best friends become strangers to each other, strong marriages collapse, and milk turns sour ahead of schedule. These are the rules of the game to be accepted.

The content of the article

• 1 Suppression
• 2 Concealment
• 3 Apologies
• 4 Budget
• 5 Height
• 6 Exhaustion
• 7 Past
• 8 Bed
• 9 Insults
• 10 Wines
• 11 Test

Community of interest, strong physical attraction, and bonding of souls are the best-known signs of a promising relationship. What about a hopeless relationship? Is it possible somehow else on the shore to understand that your union is doomed?

Can. Read this article carefully and analyze your relationship with your partner. Perhaps you yourself have long guessed that something was wrong?

Suppression i

Conflict resolution is impossible without healthy compromise. But do not confuse concepts such as "compromise" and "suppression". If, in order to keep the peace in a couple, you have to give up everything that is dear to you and suppress your true desires, can this be called a compromise?

Why can't you be yourself next to this person? Why do you constantly have to adjust and overpower yourself? And more importantly, how long are you going to tolerate this?

Concealment2

You are afraid to tell the truth about your relationship to anyone. You shy away from asking family and friends. Fear of judgment haunts you. Conceal, embellish, belittle, lie. You are willing to go to any lengths to protect your partner. Protect … from what?

Everyone shouldn't like your partner. But why are you so afraid that the truth about your boyfriend or your girlfriend will not please your parents or best friends? Is it about them? Or do you yourself, deep down, realize that your relationship is not entirely healthy?

Apologies3

You are constantly apologizing. For anything. Friends noticed this too and drew your attention to it. "Sorry for my appearance", "I'm sorry, I'm not in the mood today", "I don't think so, I'm sorry."

The habit of constantly apologizing is a wake-up call. This problem is typical for victims of moral violence, who are systematically driven into a corner, forced to doubt their own adequacy, to renounce their desires and the right to free will. Look at your partner, did he impose this inferiority complex on you?

Budget4

You have a very different attitude to financial issues. Even if you are in perfect order with your money, a sharp divergence of views can become a serious problem in the future. Needless to say, middle-income couples are simply doomed to constantly torment each other with scandals on this basis?

How do you make money? How do I spend them? Save? How much and where? If one of you prefers to live one day and does not skimp on entertainment, and the other has already calculated all his income up to retirement, problems are inevitable. One of you will have to make concessions. Are you ready for this? What about your partner?

Height5

You must inspire each other for new achievements and growth. This applies to appearance, career, and future. What about this in a hopeless relationship? Your partner doesn't inspire you to take care of your weight and health, wear pretty clothes, and look sexy. In the same way, he does not make you want to try something new in bed, cook something tasty or try to earn more. You have no incentive to impress and surprise - it seems that the person is not worth the effort. You live under the motto "And so everything will work out!"

"Well, we just live in stability, what is it ??"

Hmm, nothing at all. But let me tell you a secret: stability does not exist. You are either developing or degrading.

Another alarming signal - you understand that it is these relationships that are pulling you to the bottom. Before meeting this person, you were full of strength and energy and constantly strived for something. And now only a light smoke remains from the former fire.

Exhaustion6

Relationships are not only about passionate nights, dining in beautiful restaurants and traveling with beautiful Instagram photos. Relationships are work. Everything should be in moderation - joy replaces tears, egoism alternates with care, and work with rest. This is normal. There are no ideal people, and accordingly, there are no ideal relationships.

But!

When a relationship begins to resemble an endless run with obstacles in the form of quarrels, conflicts, tantrums, scandals and "parting forever", it is time to stop and think carefully. Does it all make sense? Do people enter into relationships in order to suffer?

Past7

It is impossible to build a healthy strong relationship with a person who is not capable of this. It is impossible to cure jealousy of a pathological jealous person who is constantly trying to find evidence to support your infidelity. “Why do you keep photos with your ex? Are you not enough for you? Maybe feelings still remain? Why did you come home yesterday (la) half an hour later than usual and in such a good mood, huh ??"

Run away from the person who constantly pokes your nose at minor mistakes of the past. Don't try to shoulder the overwhelming burden of “healing” the person who poisons your life.

Bed8

You sleep separately. You already have a whole list of excuses ready: "he snores," "she pulls the whole blanket over herself," "I'm cramped," "I'm hot," etc.

Most "intractable problems" are not even worth talking about.

Better ask yourself why you are so uncomfortable sleeping next to your (sort of) loved one? If you are tormented by nightmares and insomnia, maybe your subconscious mind is hinting at something?

When we sleep in an embrace with a loved one, we calm down. We breathe in our own smell, we feel warmth and anxiety gradually subside.

Of course, if the person is loved and the relationship with him is healthy. Do you see what we are driving at?

Insults9

Offensive jokes are not the norm. Why date someone who is constantly trying to prick you? Aggression is not always about physical impact. Often, manipulators and abusers prefer to strike verbally. It's very easy to make the victim look guilty: “It's not my fault that you don't understand jokes! How sensitive! I didn't say anything like that. Here you need not be offended, but ashamed."

A loving person will never joke about topics that are painful to you. And if he really wants to help you, for example, to lose weight, he will find another way to motivate you. “I'm not saying that you are fat to offend. I just care about you, I want to motivate you!"

Wine10

The truth is in wine. Yours. Is always. Whatever happens, you are always to blame. Was your partner fired? It's all because of the stressful home environment that you create! Partner can't find a job? And all of you-s-s-s-s!

The partner seemed to be stuck somewhere in his teens. He does not know how to admit his mistakes and take responsibility. Looking for a solution to the problem? Never! Better to complain about life and take pity on yourself.

A healthy relationship is the hard work of two adults. An infantile person is not capable of such a feat. Are you ready to carry everything on yourself and instead of gratitude to receive pokes and accusations?

Test11

Can you turn your unpromising relationship into a promising one?

Choose one of the answer options:

A) we are ready to discuss problems;

B) we are ready not only to discuss problems, but also to solve them;

C) we could not discuss the article because we made a scandal before we could finish reading it; and in general, we are not planning to change anything, we will continue to complain about each other to our friends and take out each other's brains.

Results: if you chose the first option, then you have a chance, you just need to start acting; if you checked the second option, then you have good prospects - you are two mature adults.

PS There will be no answers for option B), because you are still unlikely to start doing something until both of you grow up. Or you won't bring each other to a nervous breakdown.