At least once in our life we break off relations with someone who was once close to us. But, mutual joy from this is not often a matter. And, perhaps, now is exactly the case when everything happened not on your initiative. Does it hurt and hurt? Not that word! And so the Internet is replete with advice like "help yourself get through it all."
But, American psychologist Guy Winch has a slightly different opinion. He says that the main thing at the very beginning is not to help, but not to harm yourself by making three main mistakes.
So, the very first mistake is the constant browsing of the social pages of the former or former. We tend to believe that in this way we will find the answers why we were abandoned: what car does her new guy drive or what is the size of her new friend's breasts? Although, we subconsciously hope to find confirmation that ex-love is very bad. As a result, we only torture and torment ourselves.
In the sequel, the second fatal mistake is to find out why you were thrown after all. Yes, to understand your punctures in a relationship in order to prevent them in the next is a necessary and useful thing. And if it suddenly turned out that the girl left because you had been lying on the couch all day, it is simply necessary to get up and get a job. But, as a rule, everything is not so simple. Therefore, you will work with a psychologist later. And now, until the pain still does not allow you to rationally figure everything out, believe that this relationship is not your destiny, and that's it!
A third common mistake is leaving memories of your relationship in the hope that it will resume. No teddy bears, slippers, and framed photos together. Everything should go to the trash can. Although, jewelry can be given to mom for safekeeping. She will figure out what to do with them. And you start to learn to notice nice people around again.
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