Why Are Men Looking For Mistresses And What Pushes Them Into The Arms Of Other Women?

More than 75% of men in long-term heterosexual relationships cheat on their mate. This figure is 50% higher than the rate of female infidelity. People treat cheating negatively, equating them with betrayal and personal insult. Any woman will be furious at the mere suspicion that her man was looking for a mistress. Why is the last question that will interest her. Rather, she will think about where to hide the body.

The content of the article

• 1 End of love
• 2 Feeling unnecessary
• 3 Game of flaws
• 4 Provoking jealousy
• 5 Sports interest
• 6 Low score in the family
• 7 Male gender socialization
• 8 Is it worth forgiving betrayal?

However, understanding the reason why a man preferred a "left" woman to a permanent friend will help, if not prevent infidelity in the future, then decide for oneself whether a relationship with such an unreliable partner is necessary.

However, understanding the reason why a man preferred a "left" woman to a permanent friend will help, if not prevent infidelity in the future, then decide for oneself whether a relationship with such an unreliable partner is necessary.

The end of love

During the candy-bouquet period, people are in love with each other, chemistry hits from all the cracks and everything is fine. This stage of the relationship is short-term and when it ends, it begins to seem that love has passed, although it just moves on to the next stage and the couple needs to decide how the relationship will develop.

Men who are not ready for a serious relationship begin to treat their girlfriend as a passed stage. Those who are afraid to honestly admit it cheat. In this case, treason is the point that signals the ending.

Feeling unnecessary2

Men need to feel important, needed and irreplaceable. With the beginning of family life, life begins, to which the husband begins to be jealous. The wife is busy with work, children, personal affairs, and the husband begins to feel abandoned, although in reality this is not so.

For such men, the search for a mistress is an opportunity to feel in demand again.

Game of disadvantages3

People tend to look for the perfect partner that fully meets their expectations. Until the Japanese invented customizable artificial wives, they have to be content with what they have. Over time, flaws become visible, a man begins to become disappointed in his beloved and look for much more flaws and inconsistencies than he really is. He goes out on a new search for the "ideal woman" and, as a result, changes.

The real reason for such betrayals lies in deep childhood. Or as a child, the man did not receive the love of his mother and is now trying to find a replacement. Or, on the contrary, he was too cared for and then the search for a mistress is an act of protest, a statement that he will no longer fall under total guardianship. Even if it doesn't exist as such.

Provoking jealousy4

Another hello from childhood comes in cases when two women fought for a man in childhood. Usually this is a mother and grandmother, each of whom tried to impose their own views on raising a child.

At a conscious age, such men deliberately provoke their chosen one and expect that she will begin the same battle for him that was observed in childhood. It is interesting that women deliberately enter into conflict and blame not the man, but the mistress.

Sports interest5

Some men assert themselves by having sex with more women. And even if they find a permanent girlfriend, this is not considered an objective reason to interrupt the series of conquests. Such men are looking for mistresses not because they have sympathy for the girl, but to prove their masculinity to themselves, to society, to the partner of the woman with whom he cheated.

At the expense of others, such people become more important to themselves.

Low score in the family6

Roles in a family are established only by its members. There are frequent cases when in a relationship where a man is a follower, and not a leader, begins to feel inferior and insignificant. In this case, he begins to look for a mistress in order to feel like a "real man" through betrayal. After all, the mistress will not demand to wash the dishes and explain that both spouses should monitor the family budget, and not one of them.

Male gender socialization7

One day people will live in a wonderful world where human behavior will not be corrected by his gender. In the meantime, boys are taught from childhood that they are polygamous, while women are monogamous. Accordingly, it is not necessary to be faithful to your woman, and in general it is not "like a boy." Some men cheat simply because they were once told that this is normal and it should be.

Is it worth forgiving betrayal? 8

Lovers often strengthen families, but more often they destroy them. If a spouse or lover stumbled only once and is sincerely worried about this, then it is necessary to forgive him. Until next time. Sometimes people in long-term relationships need to look at them from the outside and realize what they will lose when they break up.

It is important to understand why a man is looking for a mistress. It is even more important to know that it is not the "insidious seductress" who is to blame for treason, but the one who cheated. Acceptance of these facts will help solve local family problems, in one way or another prevent their recurrence and not wash dirty linen in public.