7 Relationship Myths We Have Believed In Since Childhood

2023 Author: Miles Ford | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-08-25 09:40

What could be easier than falling in love? People are happy to start new relationships; however, when it comes to developing them, this is where the real fun begins. Sit back, grab some popcorn: we're starting the funniest drama series ever. His characters believe that "opposites attract" and that "happy couples never conflict."

The content of the article

• 1 Myth # 1. "Opposites attract each other"
• 2 Myth number 2. "In a happy relationship, people do not quarrel."
• 3 Myth number 3. "A couple should have sex 20 times a month"
• 4 Myth No. 4. "If in a relationship complexity is a wrong relationship"
• 5 Myth number 5. "A wedding or the birth of the first child will help resolve conflicts"
• 6 Myth number 6. "If he loved me, he would know what I need"
• 7 Myth number 7. "All men (women) cheat"

Charlie Bloom, a psychotherapist from the USA, believes that this is impossible. “Those who believe in these myths doom themselves to failure. Such ideals are unrealistic. They usually originate in children's fairy tales. For example, after watching a cartoon about Cinderella, girls believe in a happy future with rich princes. But are fairy-tale myths really applicable to real life?"

Today we are going to talk about the most common myths about relationships.

Myth No. 1. "Opposites attract each other" _1

This truth has been taught to many from a young age. As a result, educated girls grow up convinced that they need brutal men; Introverts dream of getting along with extroverts. And guys who love travel and adventure, naively believe that they can get along with household lady-homebodies.

“Of course, it's nice to find a partner who complements you. But the opinion that people with opposite personalities will be happy is very far from reality. An introvert will go mad in the company of an extrovert in half a day; the latter cannot bear the boredom of sitting within four walls. And how do you like this plot - the "correct" girl in the evenings waiting at the window for her faithful bastard? There is nothing more stupid and far from reality than such stereotypes,”explains Bloom.

Myth number 2. "In a happy relationship, people do not quarrel" _2

This myth, instilled in us through television and movies, is a complete lie. Happy couples don't bathe every day in rose petal baths; their lives are not entirely like cotton candy. “There are differences in any pair. The fight does not mean that you are trying to connect your life with the wrong person. In fact, conflicts can be useful for discussing disagreements,”says the psychologist. “The most important thing is not to judge and criticize your partner; show diplomacy."

Myth No. 3. "A couple should have sex 20 times a month" _3 _ 20

“There is no frequency of sex that could be called“right,”says Charlie. “Every person has their own needs. If you need intimacy more or less often, talk to your partner. Find the rhythm that works for both of you."

Myth No. 4. "If in a relationship complexity is a wrong relationship" _4

People believe that if you find the “right” partner, everything will go smoothly at once. But in reality there is no ideal. “You cannot constantly contain your shortcomings. In the early stages of a relationship, people do it; but gradually negative character traits begin to appear. Both you and your partner have to deal with them. Any relationship requires daily work on it - understanding this will keep you from disappointment,”explains Bloom.

Myth number 5. "A wedding or the birth of the first child will help resolve conflicts" _5

“Women who have psychological difficulties often do not notice them closely,” the psychologist continues. “And yet they tend to think that a wedding ceremony or the birth of a baby will help make a difference. Although in most cases all this only exacerbates the existing problems. To deal with them, you need to look at what is happening between you, within your relationship. Instead of looking for some external ways to resolve difficulties."

Myth No. 6. "If he loved me, he would know what I need" _6

“Alas and ah. People don't read each other's thoughts. You yourself must convey to your partner what you need. For example, if you need sex - what's the problem? Tell about it. Tell your partner if you need more attention and participation in business. Or, conversely, a little peace and loneliness. You and only you can tell your partner about your needs - the Pope will not do it for you,”says Charlie. “Tell your partner something like:“It would be very important for me if you…”. Communicate your thoughts, but do it without pressure or obsession."

Myth No. 7. "All men (women) cheat" _7

This myth is supported by the society themselves and the media. However, in reality, not all people are deceivers. “If you continue to believe in this myth, it can be detrimental to your relationship. The trust will diminish. You will constantly expect a catch. Do you want a reliable, lasting relationship? Trust your significant other. And always discuss any doubts with her,”the psychologist recommends.

From the outside, well-off couples look as if everything is given to them simply by magic. But in reality, a good relationship is hard work. Which, by the way, pays off very well, in the future bringing dividends in the form of joint happiness and success.