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On modern forums, you can often find the problem of boredom in couples. The most common advice in this case is separation. It seems like the perfect way out of the situation, especially if the guy gets bored with the girl, and not vice versa. After all, if now the relationship has become boring and there is nothing interesting in them, then what awaits the couple during their life together?
The content of the article
- 1 Why does it get bored with a girl?
- 2 What if the relationship gets boring?
In fact, boredom comes from a variety of reasons. By getting rid of them, you can revive the relationship and make it more joyful, interesting for both.
Why does it get bored with a girl? I
Just a few features in a relationship can lead to a kind of "stagnation", according to experts from the Russian magazine PSYCHOLOGIES. The young man needs to start with himself before venting his grudges on the girl.
High expectations are the first reason that leads to boredom at a certain stage of communication. Between a couple, at the beginning of their relationship, love always arises. This feeling somewhat distorts the person's perception of his partner (it seems to the man that the girl is perfect). In fact, the guy ascribes qualities to the girl that she does not possess. And she, in turn, tries to create a beautiful image.
When the romance wears off, the partners appear to each other in real life. Disappointment arises, the fairer sex does not seem so cheerful and interesting, it becomes boring in a relationship.
If you restrain emotions, it is likely that boring notes will appear in the relationship. When a man tries to restrain his irritation, over-controlling himself, smoothing corners and avoiding quarrels, the relationship becomes even and superficial. And over time they turn into boring ones.
Lack of attention from a guy. This refers to the situation when he is too involved in work, friendship or family relations, forgetting that he has a girlfriend. But a relationship with a loved one requires a certain return. A disproportionate attention to other areas of your life leads to the fact that the girl does not have the strength and boredom arises.
The problem may be in the character of the guy. Some people tend to get bored and depressed even with themselves. They are not inspired by work, hobbies. It will be difficult for such a person to give something to a partner, so the relationship will become boring.
Thus, if you become bored with a girl, the problem is not always her, and the situation can be corrected on your own.
What if the relationship gets boring? 2
A few tips will help breathe a second life into a relationship only if both partners want it. If a guy sees that his girlfriend is not eager to support his ideas and make leisure time diverse, then such a relationship is doomed. But if a couple has been together for a long time and there are sincere feelings between people, then you can get rid of boredom.
Rule 1: Conversations
You definitely need to talk to a girl if she gets bored. You need to delicately find out if such a relationship suits her. Explain that some things are embarrassing for the young person and he would like to change them You cannot express dissatisfaction with the problems, shifting all responsibility for them to your partner, otherwise she will take everything "with hostility."
In addition, the conversation will help her understand her boyfriend better. Girls do not know how to read minds, but when they notice that something is amiss, they are able to wind themselves up to an extreme degree by inventing a story about betrayal and the secret life of a partner. Straightforward conversation will remove her suspicions (if any) and show the guy as honest and smart.
Rule 2: varied leisure activities
The same restaurant that a couple visits on the same day of the week, sooner or later, will get tired of the partners. Daily sitting at home in front of the TV after work - too. As well as trips to their parents on Saturdays and walks in the same park. You need to constantly nourish the relationship so that it doesn't get boring.
To do this, the guy just needs to invite the girl to go to another institution (or even go somewhere). Even if the experience turns out to be negative, for example, the sushi in the new cafe turns out to be disgusting, it will be the general impressions of the couple that they will experience together, thus brightening up their leisure time.
The young man will notice how the girl has changed literally before our eyes, when he offered an interesting lesson a couple of times.
Rule 3: everything is in his hands
If you expect the relationship to become bright again on its own, then they are definitely doomed to parting. Getting bored with a girl? So you need to take the initiative. Make an unexpected surprise, arrange a romantic dinner, invite to a slow dance in an establishment, etc. If a girl is interested in a relationship, she will also begin to do unusual things.
If a man did everything possible to restore the relationship, and the woman ignored it, then he may wonder if such a companion is right for him. In any case, you should immediately look for the problem in yourself.