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Meeting the girl went well, and you decided to invite her to dinner. How not to spoil the first impression and fall in love with the chosen one? If you know the main rules of the first date and follow them, you can easily achieve your goal.
The content of the article
- 1 What a guy shouldn't do on a first date
- 2 How to finally win over a girl?
What a guy shouldn't do on a first date
- You shouldn't call a girl the day before and ask if her dinner plans have changed. It looks overly intrusive. The girl may think that you have a backup option for an evening pastime and if she says no, you can easily switch your attention to another passion.
- Chat with friends in messengers or social networks. Put your phone aside, or even better, turn it off so that the girl can see it. As a last resort, turn off the sound. This will let your lady know that you are serious and appreciate the time spent with her.
- Don't come on a date without flowers. Most modern girls consider flowers a waste of money. But this rule does not apply to the first date. Flowers are an obligatory attribute of the evening.
Do not violate the personal boundaries of the chosen one. Many guys believe that if a girl agreed to have dinner with them, then she is ready for closer contact. This is partly true. A girl will never agree to go on a date with a guy that she looks like she doesn't like. But this does not mean that at the end of the evening, a kiss awaits you. Do not rush things, let the girl mature for closer contact. According to statistics, the first kiss for most newly-made couples happens on the third date
- Do not use profanity. If you are looking for a girl for a serious relationship, be polite.
- Do not split the bill payment in half. There is an opinion that if a man pays for a girl in a restaurant, then he is counting on sex. Therefore, when your chosen one reaches out for the account, politely refuse her. Tell her that it was a pleasure for you to buy her dinner and, if she wishes, can buy you coffee next time.
- Never ask a girl's home. Firstly, such pressure will scare her away, and secondly, it is in your best interest to prolong the romantic atmosphere of the relationship as long as possible. If the girl herself invites you to go to her home, try to find the strength to refuse. Most likely, your new friend decided to arrange a check and is waiting for your answer.
How to finally win over a girl? 2
Being gallant, considerate, and polite is not enough. Women love generous men. Therefore, on the first date, you will have to spend financially. This does not mean that you need to splurge and strive to create the impression of a rich man. You just don't have to be stingy. A modest well-mannered girl will not allow herself to beg for gifts on the first date. But, if a flower seller comes up to you in a restaurant and offers to buy a bouquet for his companion, do not refuse.
Everyone knows that girls love to talk. Therefore, if you want to impress, do not pull the blanket over yourself in conversations, let your chosen one speak out. Take an interest in her affairs, ask her questions, and listen carefully to the answers. Talk about yourself rarely and whenever possible, translate the topic of conversation to your companion. This way you can keep the intrigue about your personality. Girls love mysterious guys.
Give compliments. But don't overdo it. There are men who are too predictable in their admiration for a girl. Sugary, sweet compliments will alienate her, and she will think you are a flatterer who wants to please in any way.
They are always greeted by their clothes. No matter how economical and good-natured man you are, no one will notice this behind a stale shirt and dirty shoes. Even if you've had a hard day at work, you don't have the right to show up unkempt on your first date. Get yourself in order.
And if this is not possible, it is better to postpone the meeting the next day. Don't forget about fresh breath and deodorant. When the interlocutor has an unpleasant smell from the mouth, all desire to communicate disappears, there is not even a talk about kissing in such a situation.
Take care of the next day. When you wake up in the morning after your date, write a message to the girl. Wish her good morning and ask her how she is feeling. If there is an opportunity to call, then do it. Be sure to say thank you for last night in a conversation and say that you are looking forward to the next meeting.
As you can see, the rules for a first date are pretty simple. The main thing is not to portray who you are not. Always be yourself. If by nature you are silent, you should not squeeze out ridiculous phrases from yourself. The girl will immediately understand that you are striving to please at any cost. After all, if she agreed to meet with you, then you have already interested her!