A Perfect Marriage Does Not Guarantee Success In An Intimate Relationship

Many people believe that sexual problems only exist in couples who are experiencing a crisis in the relationship. Accordingly, those who have perfect relationships should have perfect sex. Is it really? One journalist decided to share her own experience in this area, and this is what she said.

The content of the article

• 1 Amazing story
• 2 Opinion of psychologists

Amazing storyi

“When I was about thirty, I divorced my husband, and for a long time I could not communicate with the opposite sex at all, although my body demanded this close communication. In relations with my husband, everything was fine with us: we understood each other perfectly, had a good time. But one day I woke up and realized that this relationship had reached a dead end. I wanted more passion, in the end, I wanted an intimate relationship. By the way, my husband and I stopped making love altogether, or it happened extremely rarely."

“After the divorce, I decided that nothing binds my hands, and I can start all over again. I invited a colleague to the event and we had a great time with him. Better than ever with my ex-husband. Then a colleague invited me, and we began to closely communicate, if you understand what I mean. By the way, this colleague was gay, but sometimes he needed female affection, just as I needed a gentleman's escort. At that time, each of us did an excellent job with the responsibilities of satisfaction. He was handsome and cheerful - that is, he possessed everything that women buy. In sex, we had no problems with him at all. This relationship lasted for several years and everything was just perfect."

“I asked myself: how is this possible? With my husband, whom I loved to madness before, sex seemed somehow boring and ridiculous, but with a gay man, albeit handsome, to whom I had only a superficial attraction, was everything just perfect? I thought about it for a long time, but meanwhile, life went on as usual. I found myself a new man with whom I felt great. By the way, his appearance was mediocre, if that's important. We had great sex until we started living together."

“Delving into thoughts and memories, I suddenly realized that everything was exactly the same with my husband. When we started dating, the sex was amazing: unpredictable places, positions and sensations. We could snuggle passion at night in a park, in a restaurant toilet, or on a Ferris wheel. All in all, a decent list of places. At the same time, every time, going out to meet each other, we were not completely sure that today we will make love. And then the thought literally dawned on me: when there is no intrigue in a relationship, all passion and adventurism disappear. It also happened with my man, with whom I began to live after we met for a little over six months."

“But with the gay boy it was different. We each lived our own lives, and when we wanted, we met on neutral territory, and were given joy. Each meeting was intriguing, and it intensified the feeling of intimacy. This made our sex unforgettable."

Opinion of psychologists2

Psychologists have their own opinion on this matter, which explains the observed pattern. A marriage, even if it is happy, is not a guarantee of ideal intimate relationships. This is because marriage and sex are two different branches. If in sex you need passion, attraction, then for a successful marriage, rather, friendly feelings are characteristic: support, respect, patience. Not a very exciting quality, right? Intimate relationships are a complex and self-existing isolated world. Nothing can guarantee successful sex if you do not work specifically on this aspect.