It so happens that you met the man of your dreams and spent an unforgettable evening with him. It seems that everything turned out like in a fairy tale and you are waiting for his call, mentally already drawing up a wedding menu. But, he does not call today or tomorrow … Why? There are at least a damn dozen reasons for this. And just as many statements as to why you shouldn't call first.
First, he didn't like you. Yes, at first he was amazed at your beauty, but after the conversation, he didn’t like something. Perhaps you seemed to him too confident and independent, or, on the contrary, completely "home". He didn’t like that you didn’t drink alcohol or, on the contrary, drank “too much”.
I didn't like your timbre of voice or the presence of an older brother-boxer. Yes, anything, but he does not see your joint "tomorrow". Don't be upset. It hurts, but much worse all my life to pose as a person whom others want to see. You will definitely meet someone who will appreciate you the way you are.
Second, it was all too fast. It's about sex on the first date. A young man might think that you are so promiscuous in life. Why would you call then? For one more Razik? Well, then wait until he gets drunk with his friends, then he will definitely dial.
If you so want it to happen faster, you can, of course, dial it yourself. But I'm afraid this will only cause him a fit of irritation. Men want to be hunters, and the longer he "hunts" you, spends his efforts and time, the higher your value. And after the first time, what is the value?
Third, he liked you too much. Yes, sometimes you can rewrite all the jokes about female logic in a male way. But men are frightened by this sudden passion, he realizes that a little bit more and he will not be able to control all this and will look funny and ridiculous. Usually, this is inherent in guys who try to control everything and overestimate their claims.
By and large, these are people with certain psychological complexes. If you call yourself, he may be even more scared. Remember that such people tend to look for "chance encounters" after a while to continue communication. But, think three times, do you want your partner to be demonstratively cold with you and avoid "calf tenderness" just because he is afraid of losing control over life?
Fourth - fills his own worth. Such guys and during your communication periodically talk with other women and turn them off. The expectation is that the spirit of competition will turn on and you will call yourself. But, such speculators are complete egoists. And they will involve more and more girls in their game. Do you need it?
Fifth - he is afraid that he did not like it. An insecure man worries that he does not like the girl and is afraid to call her so as not to get proof of this. He will prefer to dream about her and wait for an opportunity to check again how much he can count on reciprocity. Well, what can I say? If it’s absolutely "bezrybe" and you have to get married right tomorrow, you can call, of course. But, it's better for his mom right away. Apparently, in life he is not capable of making up his mind.
The sixth is waiting. Such a guy doesn't mind calling, but he takes a certain time out so as not to look annoying and save his face. Most of all, he is afraid of obsession and strong pressure from you. Therefore, it is worth waiting for a call from him with a sense of dignity, as in the song it is sung: "a sleepy voice answers:" ah, it's you, hello … ".
Seventh - the planned "planner" makes a plan for the month. You're not there yet. These are very boring types, but capable of making good money. They scrupulously and meticulously plan their lives, and little will allow themselves to bring confusion into it. Thanks to this, in fact, they succeed in work, but they are very specific in relationships. If your main goal is to find a reliable and predictable guy - here he is. But, it's still worth waiting for him to allocate his time for you. Otherwise, your call will put him in a state of "unsettled", which he most hates.
Eighth - fear of change. This is an even more neglected option. He is afraid that his measured life will be jeopardized, and the sterile cleanliness of the apartment will suffer. If you are satisfied with the guest version of the relationship, you can try, but not by calls. Send him a link to a clever article on the benefits of this type of marriage, and an article on contractual fashion with clear rules and times for meetings.
And also on your opuses on social networks that children are just unnecessary dirt and an unimaginable squeak. Perhaps then he will call you back. But why? Well, except perhaps to practice like a novice psychologist, and understand that psychiatrists, in such cases, are still cooler.
Ninth - for no reason. The man drank beer, talked (and for him it doesn't matter with whom - even with a fabulous animal, it just turns out more pleasant with a girl) and that's it. Why isn't the man calling? Calling was not part of his plans at all. He won't even remember your name. And your call surprises him. “Why don't you call?” You ask. What should he answer? If it is true, then "because I did not intend to"!
Eleventh - he has a girlfriend (or even a wife). It's a shame, but many guys are carried away by others, it seems that they give them a chance, and in the morning they pray to God that a new acquaintance will forget him. If you slept with him, he may even "lose his mobile", just to protect his constant partner from excitement.
If not, he will be sincerely surprised into the phone: “What is Nastya? And when did we meet you? " Well, and then comment on your call to your beloved like: “Strange girls have gone: before they could exchange two words, they immediately pester me with calls. And where did you get my number!"
Twelfth - he decided that you are not suitable for him. Men are much more gossipers than women! How many times do you have to deal with a situation when they "made inquiries" about you? And if his friends / colleagues or other people whose opinion is valuable to him, characterize you "not very", he may decide that "not worth it." Your call won't change anything.
It will only add confidence that this reference group is right in its assessments. In fact, it's for the best. It is difficult enough to live with a person for whom his friends are more important. Football, gatherings and fishing will make you shed tears alone many more times. Both husbands and fathers turn out to be bad from them. Time is running out, and such a person remains "the main in the area" among the boys in their thirties.
And finally, the thirteenth is force majeure. Yes, it happens that he really had an accident the next day, he was sent on a business trip to the tundra, or his cell phone with your number and access to all bank accounts was stolen. Naturally, for some time he simply physically cannot call you. But, and will not be able to talk to you in case of your call. So, believe that this is your case and wait until he solves all the problems with the bank, buys himself a new phone, "hooks" the friend who introduced you and asks for your contact again. Or come back in a year from a flight into space.
In general, a man may not call due to a number of circumstances. But most importantly, don't do it first! If this is your man, he will call you back in time. If not, it is better to cry a little now than to endure humiliation, and even worse - to raise a child together alone. Take the absence of a call as the help of the Guardian Angel. After all, women sometimes fall in love recklessly.
If you are not yet sure that this relationship is not worth your time, read our article rather.