Table of contents:
- The first seeds of trials
- Mutual claims2
- Various interests3
- The appearance of the child4
- Tough time and trouble5
- Overcome the crisis6
- First year - addictive_8212
- Fifth Year - Habit and Life7
- Seventh Year - Fatigue_8212-2
- The twelfth year - sometimes together, sometimes apart8
- Twentieth year forever? …nine
- Avoid accusations and insults10
- Personal freedom11
- Understand and Accept12
- Diversity and Interest13
- Fighting the crisis14
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Even in the most reverent love affair and the perfect marriage, there is a crisis in the relationship. The feelings of all love couples are subject to him. Only Romeo and Juliet carried their love without tarnishing reproaches and quarrels. But their love did not last long and took the lives of unfortunate lovers with it. Long-term and marriage relationships, sooner or later come to the starting line called "crisis".
The content of the article
- 1 The first shoots of trials
- 2 Mutual claims
- 3 Different interests
- 4 The appearance of the child
- 5 Tough times and troubles
- 6 Overcome the crisis
- 7 The first year is addictive
- 8 Fifth Year - Habit and Life
- 9 Year 7 - Fatigue
- 10 The twelfth year - sometimes together, sometimes apart
- 11 Twentieth Year - Forever? …
- 12 Avoid accusations and insults
- 13 Personal freedom
- 14 Understand and Accept
- 15 Diversity and interest
- 16 Dealing with the crisis
The first seeds of trials
At first, loving partners cannot live a day without each other. They breathe in unison, go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time. They forget about everyone and everything, just to spend time together. Gradually, young people get used to the society of the second half and the magical thrill gradually disappears.
The closeness of a partner does not evoke exciting emotions. A guy and a girl cease to amaze each other and cause mutual interest. Relationships take on a mundane and boring form. Love flows smoothly into a habit, when the beloved girl is perceived more as a sister than a sexual object. The guys begin to glance around, taking an interest in other persons in skirts. So betrayal begins or objects of sympathy appear on the side. A family boat or love relationship is slowly cracking.
The crisis in relationships manifests itself gradually. Reproaches, mutual claims and grievances begin. Partners notice the flaws of the second half, although before that they considered “their love” ideal. The girl from the "favorite princess" turns into a "bore, lazy and grumpy woman." "The man of dreams" and "the handsome prince appears in a new guise:" an egoist, a biscuit, a muddler, a rude and a loser. " Insults stop taking the mask of "cuddiness", each time taking a serious turn.
Now a man makes his passion cry not only from happiness. And, a woman makes her friend, loudly slamming the door, run away from home and wander around the city, hungry and unhappy. Relationships stop developing, bumping into a wall of misunderstanding and disappointment. The more passion and love bind a couple, the more painful the stage of insults and quarrels goes.
Relationship difficulties begin when partners realize how different their views on life are. Let's say a woman belongs to the household. She enjoys gardening, baking and cooking. Dislikes noisy gatherings, crowded places and parties. On Sundays, the girl attends church, and communicates only with elderly relatives and organizers of the dog shelter.
A man, on the contrary: an inveterate atheist, a lover of bright parties and city bustle. Every weekend, the boy drags his friends with their wives to the house to have fun with a glass of wine and barbecue. The wife patiently endures their presence and difference in views from the husband. But gradually patience bursts and the light of God splashes out mutual reproaches about the difference in life principles. In such a situation, there is no one to blame. Everyone lives as he sees fit and does not want to give in to his partner.
The appearance of the child4
The birth of a child is a happy event in a young family. The red-cheeked baby with father's eyes and mother's smile has been waited for so long! Young parents for nine months cherished the idea of a happy life as a three of them, but with the advent of a new family member, something went wrong. The toddler constantly whines, does not allow parents to sleep peacefully or be alone. The spouse becomes tired and irritated.
The husband understands that now he plays a far from important role in the life of his beloved woman. He longs for intimacy, but his wife, tormented by everyday life and a restless baby, angrily rejects the hints and harassment of her partner. Young people are gradually moving away from each other. Soon they begin to understand that apart from a common child, there is nothing else that binds them. The appearance of a baby is not only a joyful change in the life of a young family, but also a serious test for the strength of feelings, mutual assistance and respect for each other.
Tough time and trouble5
Difficult everyday issues and other trials bring crisis in relationships. Families are faced with situations in which it is necessary to join forces and overcome a difficult period. It can be: dismissal, unexpected serious illness or death of a relative, bankruptcy or other "disaster". Such situations can both strengthen and destroy family ties, depending on the behavior of the partners. Trials appear just at that moment to show what the partner is ready for in order to solve a difficult situation. Unfortunately, some couples do not stand the test and move on the "family boat" to destructive force.
Overcome the crisis6
Problems within a union cell are not indicative of a "worthless family." Difficulties appear for each pair. It is very important at such a moment not to ignore the first signals of the problem, not to aggravate the situation, but wisely and deliberately come to the right solution. A successful exit from the crisis contributes to the strengthening of relations, "a new breath of love" and passion, between partners.
Psychologists distinguish several difficult stages in relationships among loved ones. Relationships between young people are gradually changing. Depending on the circumstances and behavior of the man and woman, the love union either strengthens or gradually weakens, coming to naught.
First year - addictive_8212
Love and passion burn with special force at the first stage of a relationship. Young people gradually get used to each other, check personal boundaries, what is permissible and what is prohibited in a relationship. Young people try to get to know their soulmate more, talk about the further course of the novel. They gradually realize how dear to each other. Is there understanding, patience and closeness between partners?
The crisis in the relationship for the first year goes unnoticed for both. The couple comes to the conclusion whether it is worth being together or it is better to break up before it's too late. The first year is not a short period. Most relationships ended after twelve months of living together.
Fifth Year - Habit and Life7
A serious check of relations takes place in 3-5 years. The attraction of love smoothly develops into related feelings. The feeling of novelty disappears before partners. They are deeply attached to the soul mate, talk on different topics, reveal their secrets and secrets. Both cease to be an “interesting object” and are transformed into a “read book”.
The degree of attachment increases, and the passion and attraction gradually diminish. Partners know each other like back to back. They do not hesitate to go to the restroom, chomp while eating, and pick their teeth. A woman does not rush to the bathroom early in the morning to brush her teeth and touch up her face before her beloved wakes up. A man walks in front of his darling in leaky and dirty socks, not caring about three days of stubble. Ordinality and boredom slowly sneak into the relationship.
Seventh Year - Fatigue_8212-2
Seven years pass. In the family there is a "heaviness" from fatigue, which gradually falls on the partners. They get tired of performing the same actions every day, seeing the same person before their eyes. Gradually, mutual understanding is lost between relatives, and once, loved ones. A woman feels the despair of a housewife who longs to feel beautiful and loved. Everyday life, taking care of your husband and children is very tiring. She wants new impressions, recognition and vivid sensations. The husband, meanwhile, seeks to realize his personal interests. It is impossible to carry out the plan because of the increasing responsibilities to the family.
Romance from the relationship has long disappeared to an unknown address. Partners cease to understand each other, feeling mutual irritation and annoyance. At this stage, the husband and wife may have lovers.
The twelfth year - sometimes together, sometimes apart8
Twelve years together is a serious crisis in a relationship. The spouses disagree, then converge again. On the one hand, the middle age comes, the time when you inexorably want changes in your personal life. On the other hand, people are used to being a family, the degree of affection and kinship is so great that it attracts partners to be together. Growing up children play an important role.
Teenagers are active growing up children with a lot of problems. Parents unite again to go through a difficult time together. They join forces to cope with raising a child. The family will not avoid dirty linen and stormy truces. The small house boat sways from side to side.
Twentieth year forever? …nine
Twenty years is a considerable period of cohabitation. At this time, adult children leave the home. The couple are left alone, which they have lost the habit of over the years. They feel emptiness and despair, not understanding how to fill the "hole" in the relationship. They have to rebuild the family model. Some couples go free swimming and find new partners. However, the habit of being together takes up, and most traitors return back to their "home nest".
Avoid accusations and insults10
Building relationships is not an easy job. To maintain mutual feelings, partners need to make an effort on themselves, change habits and compromise. In difficult situations, one should guard against mutual reproaches and accusations. Bitter words spoken in a fit of anger and despair can deeply hurt and offend a person. Refusing aggression and insults towards the chosen one, demonstrating patience and tact, the couple fosters respect and understanding in the relationship.
Each partner needs personal space. When people constantly invade someone else's space, then conflicts cannot be avoided. It is necessary to respect the opinions and interests of the spouses as to their own. Feeling constant pressure from the outside, infringement of freedom and rights, a person will accumulate growing anger and irritation in his soul. Sooner or later, the bomb will explode, destroying the relationship and intimacy between the spouses. Every person should have a personal space. Thanks to him, the partner is a bright and interesting person.
Understand and Accept12
Avoiding breakups and trials in a relationship can be done through compromise. For a long time together, a woman and a man can observe and understand what exactly angers and calms the partner. Sometimes a scandal develops from scratch, while a major quarrel could be avoided if the partners understood each other. It is necessary to look for common ground that can affect the peaceful life of the family. In all circumstances, it is important to provide support and participation to your significant other. This focus will help strengthen the relationship between spouses.
Diversity and Interest13
Habit and boredom are the enemies of love relationships. What does not develop is doomed to destruction. So that the feelings of the other half do not fade away, partners should always be and remain interesting personalities. Don't forget about appearance, shape, cosmetics and razor. Women who take care of themselves and are overgrown with compliments will always be loved and desired by their husbands.
Big mistake: to limit communication to the walls of your home. It is important to visit places of entertainment or culture together: restaurants, theaters, circus, skating rink, gym. That being said, you need to spend a little time separately. A woman spends the weekend with her relatives, her husband is fishing with friends. Partners return on Sunday and share different experiences over a delicious dinner.
Fighting the crisis14
A crisis in a relationship is not able to destroy the love and marriage of a man and a woman if they act according to the following principles:
- Show respect and restraint during an argument.
- Do not stoop to low insults, humiliation and assault.
- Remain an interesting and bright personality.
- Do not forget about your hobbies and personal space of both.
They say patience and work will grind everything. With love, work and patience will help overcome any challenges that threaten a relationship.