"Yes, He Is Good For Her Sons!" Age Difference And Its Impact

Couples with a big age difference are constantly attracting attention. Not so long ago, the public around the world hotly discussed the marriage of French Prime Minister Macron to Brigitte, who is 25 years older than him. About the same difference between US President Donald Trump and his wife Melania - 24 years.

The content of the article

• 1 Sexologist's revelations about his biography
• 2 Psychological points. The importance of needs
• 3 Senior Partner Experience and Power
• 4 Sexual needs

Could age differences be a barrier to successful relationships? Yes and no. Much depends on the situation, personal and biographical characteristics of partners.

Sexologist's revelations about his biography

Sexologist Isadora Alman tried to give explanations on this difficult topic. “When I was in my first year of college, my first lover was 26 years old. I myself recently turned 17. At the age of 18, I began a relationship with a 38-year-old psychoanalyst. I loved going to various professional conferences with him; because psychology was my real calling. However, even then I could not help but notice the evaluating views from his colleagues. Although they generally treated me well, there was still a certain tension in communication."

“For many, age-gap relationships are shocking and irrelevant. More often than not, people assume that a younger partner is entering such a relationship for the sake of money; and a more mature member of a couple - for the sake of quality sex. And besides this, they do not and cannot have anything in common. Of course, this opinion is stereotyped; however, at the same time, it cannot be denied that the psychology of relationships with a difference in age has many delicate aspects.

Psychological moments. The importance of needs2

Alman goes on to say: “First of all, each of us has certain psychological needs. We all yearn for recognition, love, self-realization, novelty. The list of psychological needs is long and varies from person to person. If you are building a relationship with an age gap, it is important to understand whether your partner is meeting those needs or not. Of course, it is impossible to find an ideal that could suit you in everything. However, if most of the important needs are overlooked, it may be worth considering other options for the relationship."

Senior Partner Experience and Power 3

“On the one hand, marriage with a difference in age can be very convenient for a younger partner,” Izadora continues in her interview. “If the husband is older, then he will undoubtedly have the necessary life experience and wisdom. If the wife - then the young spouse will not have to spend energy to feed the family. However, it should be noted: often in such a relationship, the senior partner seeks to dominate. And this is not always comfortable for the younger."

Sexual needs4

At the end of the interview, Alman also emphasizes the importance of the sexual component. “Another important aspect is sexual intimacy. Sometimes a more mature partner simply cannot give the young one what his young body requires. If you can't find a consensus in the form of various options for sex - for example, regular petting or oral sex - I would not recommend young partners to continue to build relationships. One way or another, in this love affair you will feel unhappy; and over time and regret missed sexual opportunities.

In a relationship with a difference in age, in principle, there is nothing terrible or reprehensible. The main thing is that it is convenient for you."