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You can't be good to everyone. Regardless of these words, a person, consciously or not, is trying to impress a pleasant representative (pleasant representative) of the opposite sex. The art of flirting is a developed skill, and often unconscious, that can win over a person to himself, and in some cases neutralize a little antipathy of his interlocutor.
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- 1 For girls
- 2 For men
Flirting is a communication style that shows a sincere desire to continue a joint conversation:
- It has nothing to do with manipulation and deception of the interlocutor. Rather, it looks like a pleasant game in which the participants express themselves through fantasy and experimentation.
- In practice, this is a set of phrases and non-verbal signals that attract an interesting person to himself precisely through ease and sympathy.
- You should not put a person in a stupor with heavy compliments or immoral behavior, and explain your actions with the phrase: "I am so flirting."
- A light playful contact is enough.
The art of flirting and the art of seduction are completely different things. Most people often confuse these concepts. A flirting person should not seem windy and approachable, this is moral behavior. This communication style allows not only to hint a girl or a guy about sympathy, it makes it possible to take a liking to the person who is interested, to learn something new and interesting about her, to see character traits.
In no case should you perceive flirting as an attempt to drag a person into bed or (as girls like to represent) create a family. Perhaps in the future there will be sex, and a wedding, and children. But for now, the flirt shows a desire to continue an informal conversation, which gives a good mood.
Usually strangers or unfamiliar people flirt, established couples for some reason forget about such a pleasant form of dialogue, which is fundamentally wrong. Even spouses with a long experience of family life should try to flirt with their soul mate, so you can introduce the new (which is well forgotten old) into the routine of household chores.
Like any skill, flirting can be sharpened.
The art of a woman's flirting is not what she says, but how she speaks. The smile should be sincere, not polite; there should be a desire to smile. Emotions are the key to everything. A sparkle in the eyes, a slightly lingering gaze, natural, not pretended behavior.
It is easier for women, they subconsciously send non-verbal signals to the man who interested them (the interlocutor in the conversation touches the hair, neck). Topical topics of dialogue will be an additional plus, especially topics that are interesting to the interlocutor, no nuances of manicure or shopping. The last option is to use heavy artillery in the form of touching a man, for example, accidentally touching the palm.
What can outshine a sculpted body, fashionable clothes and a brutal beard (which not everyone likes)? Why do women forgive beer roundness in the abdomen and other small raisins? Charisma and humor, two heavyweight arguments of any man. No, you shouldn't cram dozens of anecdotes and funny stories on the Internet at your leisure. Humor should be sincere, like a woman's smile. The dosage of this arcane weapon is also important. The cherry on top of the cake will be a little irony in the words.
You don't need to show bravado and boast about your own achievements. Do not invade the personal space of the interlocutor. And the most important thing for both sexes is to show who you are.
After flirting, a smart person will make appropriate organizational conclusions. It is important to be light, not frivolous. An optimist, not a jester. Real flirting is a way of looking at someone.