Table of contents:
- Why do people need such a relationship? I
- Who is an open relationship good for? 2
- Why does a man ask for this? 3
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Recently, more and more people are starting to talk about an open relationship in a couple. You live with your partner, but you don't owe anyone anything. No, on the one hand, of course, I have to pay a number of payments and perform a number of duties on household issues. But, instead of a romantic evening, both of you can simply go in different directions, so that this very evening can be easily and pleasantly spent with other sexual partners. No offense or jealousy: everything is by mutual agreement. Is this possible in reality and what are the advantages of all this - let's take a closer look.
The content of the article
- 1 Why do people need such a relationship?
- 2 Who is an open relationship suitable for?
- 3 Why does a man ask for this?
Why do people need such a relationship? I
A man and a woman are experiencing not the first divorce and want to create a new family that is deprived of "brain removal" and total control from the partner. Perhaps a woman is moving up the career ladder in this way - with the help of intimacy with managers and customers. And a man simply does not think about settling on one partner "for ideological reasons." Why then relationship at all? And why not: he is so pleased to come into a house where a woman's hand is visible. And she is good that the holidays that her married lovers spend with their families, she can spend with constant partners.
What is important to note in this "oil painting"? The partners are not going to have children; they are self-sufficient and do not want financial support from each other. In fact, for most of their lives they behave like friends and equal partners. Is it good? In that case, just fine. Perhaps, over time, they will realize that how “good and calm” with this partner is much more valuable than “fervent or full” with others. They may want to stay in this interaction forever.
But, in our cruel reality, everything is not so rosy. First, free love is often offered by men, because they do not want to bother themselves with obligations to their partner, but at the same time they want a hot dinner and an ironed shirt waiting for them at home. And the woman is not at all ready for them. For her, if there are many partners, they are not a relationship at all. She is tormented, jealous and worried. But, ready for anything, just to keep the man close. The man knows this, and uses it. In this case, there is no free relationship, there is a rather mercantile use by one person of another.
Although, not only men can be such manipulators. The girl comes to the metropolis, meets the guy and moves to his territory. But, she does not think that odnushka on the outskirts and public transport are the limit of her dreams. She is looking for other, more satisfying options. And she feeds her partner in love with stories about the "advancement" of free relationships. And pressing on his pride, like, "the real macho are all polygamous." Friends confirm the same to him, they say, you are lucky with such a modern young lady - no scandals and scenes of jealousy. Only jealousy is present - his jealousy, his painful experiences. Because he doesn't need this polygamy at all. He needs one wife, a classic wedding, a common surname and five kids. This is his ideal of family relationships.
Who is an open relationship good for? 2
Of course, no point of view can be imposed! Free relationships are neither good nor bad. They are just an option that takes place. And it can suit people if:
- it is beneficial to both, and does not break one to please the desires of the other;
- "Heals" internal feelings and removes the fear of constant clarification of relationships.
And yet it is a salvation for those people who discover the nuances of their orientation. Yes, it is in a free relationship that you can have a spouse (wife) with children and lovers of the same sex. Everything is by mutual agreement.
Why does a man ask for this? 3
If you are a woman, and you agree to an open relationship, do not do it for the sake of trying to keep your partner. He will not appreciate your pies, your generosity and patience. It will not suddenly dawn on him that there is a "treasure" nearby.
If a man is ready that his woman will sleep with other men, then there are only two options: either he considers her more a person and a professional (that is, on a par with himself) than a woman; or she is simply not valuable to him! And, if you earn less, do not make a dizzying career and do not invent a perpetual motion machine, then you are just a “convenient temporary option” that will be discarded as soon as the one for which “you can die” appears on the horizon. Alas, psychological consultations are full of ladies with such sad stories.
Moreover, the former do not create any free relations with new passions. On the contrary, they dream of making them legal wives as soon as possible and try in every possible way to make inquiries about their views to the left. So make a list of what this interaction will give you personally. And remember that freedom in sex does not at all mean that a man should not give money for a joint household, buy you clothes, take you to the doctor and visit friends with you.
A free relationship in its purest form is the ability to be above physiological needs, and not an unwillingness to take on responsibilities. Such a union implies that you share everything with your partner: joys and sorrows. And yet - it implies the prioritization of values. That is, if it is very important for one partner that the second is there at a certain time, the second will be there exactly when it is required. By and large, an ideal free relationship is the same marriage, just with an agreed time when both partners can go out for some fun on the side.
For example, on Monday and Wednesday we visit our parents (we embroider with a cross, sit at home), on Saturday we go to the pool with our children, but on Tuesday and Friday nights we have the right to left. Oh, that sounds great. And where is this "ideal"?