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Video: What To Do If A Guy Doesn't Write First
Why did he suddenly stop texting? Thought the message didn't deserve a reply, or was he avoiding you? Do you need to write to him again? Or should you move on? What does it mean when a guy doesn't answer you? Surely familiar reflections. After all, such questions are not only asked by you.
The content of the article
- 1 Release the reins
- 2 Let it look directly
- 3 Call him
- 4 Why doesn't he answer?
- 5 Live your life
We have learned to understand that men are from Mars, but sometimes they behave as if they are from another universe altogether.
It seems that everything is simple: when a guy cannot stop texting, this is his pursuit, because he is a hunter and is interested in you. When he stops texting you, it means that he has finished this very chase.
What does this mean for a girl? Well, first of all, when a guy stops texting you, that doesn't always mean he's done with you and you won't hear from him again. But how to act in such a situation? Here's what to do when he stops texting you.
Let go of the reins
Guys can be hot and cold, just like girls can be hot and cold. Disappointing, yes. Here's what's important: How you react to his behavior will either push him away or make him get carried away. Some will disagree, but not all guys really enjoy being chased after. They enjoy chasing themselves. If you chase him by attacking him with the right messages, he will likely find it repulsive to the point that he will definitely not correspond with you anymore. We all like to feel wanted, but being overly obsessed only scares us away.
It’s hard, but if he’s silent, it’s better to leave it as it is and see what happens next. Waiting takes patience, but it puts you in a better position than a "are you okay?" Message flow. Don't look at your phone 24/7. If he wants to call you back, he will. Just give it some space and see what happens next. The guy should figure out for himself that he misses you, or that he should be wondering what the hell you're doing for him. Either way will make him come back to you.
Let it look directly2
How long should you wait before texting him? Let's put it this way: you don't have to wait forever to contact him. Waiting 3-4 days looks like a decent amount of time before posting if you think you have something to say.
Write to him, but let it look casual. Share with him the picture or post you like. Do not imply that he has disappeared. Don't send him a monologue explaining how much you missed him, and don't reprimand him for not responding to your messages. Show that you are not upset, but do care if he is still around. But be careful. There is a fine line between being direct and making him feel like you are communicating because you have no one else to talk to.
If he doesn't have the tact to answer you, it's a good idea to just move on. He's clearly not worth your energy.
It's worth trying. The reason for his absence may be that he does not understand what is going on between you at all, or maybe for some reason he had the impression that you have lost interest. Calling him is the best way to sort out any problems, doubts or misunderstandings. This is a great way to get some clarity. If he is interested in your communication, he will call you back if he is busy. What if he doesn't answer? Go get some wine (and Bridget Jones's Diary)!
Why isn't he answering? 4
A clue as to why he doesn't reply to your messages may be in your recent correspondence. Look in which direction they were moving. For example, you might not have noticed right away, and he might have been pulling away for the past couple of weeks. Perhaps his answers were getting shorter or less funny, but you are too deep in him to notice. Perhaps you just missed (or chose to ignore) the signs that he is not ready for a relationship.
Maybe his disappearance is not as sudden and unexpected as you first thought. There may have been a misunderstanding. If you find a problem, you can talk about it to make sure both of you are facing the same direction.
Live your life5
There are a lot of guys who are worth your attention and there are guys who are not. Don't ask yourself “what if” or what you did wrong, don't get stuck on what it means when the guy doesn't answer you. There are many more things and people in your life than this young man. Meet your friends and enjoy life. You are much more likely to find someone new this way than to speculate about what might have been.
If he can disappear like that without warning, he just isn't worth your thoughts about him.