Measure Seven Times - Cut One! When There Is No Reason To Leave

Every couple experiences a crisis in their relationship. This is absolutely normal, and you shouldn't worry about it again. Soon only cats will give birth, and love does not tolerate fuss. Sometimes it may seem that the couple has passed the point of no return and is in a hurry to leave. But, as practice shows, such hasty decisions are often wrong, and people deeply regret what happened. Someone finds the strength in themselves and returns, and someone, having burnt all the bridges behind them, begins to look for new adventures, but at the same time they always return in their thoughts to the old ones.

The content of the article

• 1 Fisherman fisherman sees from afar
• 2 Starting event
• 3 Back to square one
• 4 Life Hack: Deadly Fantasy

Each person has a lot of criteria for parting. But before chopping off the shoulder, you need to stop and think, is it worth the candle? This is what the conversation will be about.

Fisherman fisherman sees from afar i

People's sympathy does not develop from scratch. As a rule, common interests prevail over everything else. You can be different in character, but at the same time adore river rafting. This is a common point of contact. And there can be a lot of such points.

When the relationship is shaken, it is worth remembering this first. A person cannot become a stranger overnight, unless, of course, he has stepped over a peculiar line. Therefore, it is best to sit down and paint everything in a column in order to clearly see the whole picture.

Starting event2

Relationships do not deteriorate out of the blue. There is always some reason for the chill. There are three main problems that drive couples apart:

• Birth of a child. This reason comes first, oddly enough. The problem is that a woman dissolves into a baby, often forgetting about her spouse. This is understandable, caring for the heir takes a lot of time and effort, and often there is neither one nor the other left for the husband. So it's worth stopping: a golden tear will not roll out from a small one, but you can lose your husband. By the way, it is during this period that treason occurs. Surprise and fire on what the husband's light is not worth it. Here the fault lies with the woman. To cover everything in full, a separate article is needed. Therefore, you just need to understand that first the husband, then the child. And there is no other way.
• Death of a loved one. It is always easier to deal with a difficult event when you are with your loved one. If you focus on your grief, you may not even notice that your partner is gradually moving away. But you can't. You need to share your experiences, express your feelings, take part and empathize. Then the problem of the relationship itself will fade into the background.

Financial difficulties. Here you need to separate flies from cutlets. If a partner squanders finances at a casino, that's one thing. And if a couple got into a mortgage, that's different. You cannot fry an egg without breaking the eggs. If a couple decided on such an event, then the tongue is on the lock, and there should be no reproaches about the financial pit. After all, it is despicable, sitting in a new apartment, to demand a fur coat or a car, reproaching a person for financial insolvency

Back to square one3

When the debriefing takes place, everything becomes transparent and extremely clear, and, therefore, it is not difficult to correct the situation. Just don't fight alone. It is imperative to involve a partner in this.

Surprisingly, many do not even suspect that the half is experiencing difficulties in relationships. This is where the main feature lies: one is steaming, and the second does not notice anything and does not experience any problems. And what is it fraught with? The fact that, if you do not fully understand your feelings, you can pile up such towns that howl like a wolf. But this is exactly what happens: the problem is often not worth a damn, the solution lies on the surface, the exit is at arm's length, and the hysterical woman is so blinkered that she just packs her bags and goes into the sunset, leaving her partner completely bewildered.

Lifehack: Deadly Fantasy4

A trick for the lazy and not very smart. If it is difficult to find the starting event, then you just need to imagine the death of your person. Painted, bright, with details. And listen to yourself: what emotions, what thoughts, what ideas such an event can cause. You can fantasize in many ways: sudden death, sudden death from a latent disease, serious illness. It is guaranteed that many experience a real shock when they plunge into a death fantasy, and then the question of parting disappears by itself.

Working on relationships is a natural process. Everyone may question the wisdom of maintaining the integrity of the couple. But the statistics are relentless: there are not so many reasons for parting, just people are impatient, and the stock of wisdom is small. You just need to remember one parable:

The couple, who had lived a long and happy life together, was asked: "How did you manage to be together for so long, what is the secret?" And the old people replied: "We have gone through all the shit that you, just did not break!". That's all…