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Video: Can A Man Love Two At Once? What Is A Woman To Do?
Love is loyalty, at least that's what most people think. But the question arises, can a man love two at the same time? If so, is it really love? Is this treason? And the most important question - what to do if the spouse has tender, and maybe passionate feelings for another female? Let's figure it out. But everything is in order.
The content of the article
- 1 Love is different
- 2 To love another means to change?
- 3 What if your husband loves more than you?
Love is different
You can love in different ways, because what kind of emotional attachment will depend on the role that a person will take. For example, love for a daughter and a wife are completely different things. But if a normal man is unlikely to succeed in loving his daughter as a wife, then loving his wife as a daughter is no problem. Excessive care, total, but soft control, full support from the husband.
The spouse, in response, demonstrates dependence, weak-willed and childish behavior. Now you're done. Probably, everyone noticed that we love different people in different ways and they sometimes cause very different emotions in us. With one girl, the guy feels like a mega-male - passion, fire of desires, walks by the hand until the morning, and with the other lady - a caring older brother, because this cutie and English need help, because the exam will fail, and she lost her mobile, she needs to buy a new one, and twisted my leg …
Why can love be so different? Often a man cannot fully fulfill his needs with one girl. Stop! What kind of needs are we talking about? It's simple, what matters is how he feels next to his companion.
If a representative of the stronger sex wants to be mesmerized with wide-eyed eyes, like a hero of some movie, and his wife cannot look like that, because for 10 years together, and in general she has never looked at him like that, then this man can easily fall in love with a poor student from the village, take her to coffee, buy all kinds of things and be more a friend-father-brother than a partner. But it will be love.
The fact of treason may not be. It's not about sex. The spouse will truly love his wife, as his only life partner, have sex only with his faithful, but he will receive emotions of his own importance with a young virgin. Now we come to the most interesting - is all this treason?
To love another means to change?
For many women, cheating is when a loved one just looked at another; for some, sex in a condom is no longer cheating. How many people, so many opinions, because some pathologically want to feel like a victim and therefore see betrayal in everything, while others are trying their best to justify their depravity by saying that - "well, through an elastic band." Let's approach the issue more straightforwardly and let the fact of sex on the side be considered cheating.
And all other interpretations of this concept are from the evil one. Love is a feeling. Sex is action. There is no direct relationship between them. How, you ask, if the husband wants someone other than you, then … How do you know about this? After all, if the spouse himself said this, then this only means that he has problems with upbringing or critically low self-esteem.
And whether a husband is capable of cheating depends more on his own moral and ethical ideas, the same self-esteem, the atmosphere in the family, satisfaction with marital sex, and falling in love with someone can only push someone to sex, but never become a direct cause of betrayal. If the husband's self-esteem and his ideas about "right and wrong" do not always depend on the actions of the spouse, then what can she do to minimize the likelihood of betrayal, and even the departure of a loved one to another?
What if your husband loves more than you? 3
It is also important to understand that love for another woman does not justify cheating on his wife, that is, if the husband arranged one-time sex on the side, it did not depend on whether he loved his new passion or not. But the relationship on the side is more like a manifestation of love, because the spouse can really be torn between the two ladies whom he loves, but in different ways. For example, one gives care and peace, and the second is an interesting companion, a soul mate and her legs are gorgeous.
What to do in a situation when your man loves two at the same time? If for you the very fact that a loved one has feelings for someone other than you is a tragedy of your whole life, and you will never forgive him, then it is better to leave, because the feeling that he has betrayed your husband will haunt you all your life, and you will deep down, hate your spouse and never forgive him
It's another matter if you still want to save your family and want to spend the rest of your life with this man. Moreover, if there was no fact of betrayal, and the feelings of a loved one for another are still platonic. In this case, the most important thing is not to make scandals, because he is already rushing between two such good and dear women, and then you become an evil witch, this will clearly not play in your favor.
When you put your emotions in order, you should constantly remind your beloved about your feelings, but not obsessively, but how to share your experiences, because he is already afraid to hurt you, and if you are so sensitive, then this fear will bind him to you … The main thing is not to go too far and not impose a guilt complex on him. Then he will definitely run away.
In parallel with this, you should figure out what your chosen one was missing? Maybe he just wants to share something, but you are constantly busy or do not understand his feelings? Or maybe the husband just lacks a companion with whom he can have a beer at the bar and dance on the table until the guards take him out?
Or you became unemotional and launched yourself outwardly, and he wants to wipe the mascaras flowing from tears from the eyes of a lovely lady and feel like a hero-comforter who will now take and courageously solve all the problems of this lovely creature. As soon as you understand the reason, you can become completely loved for your chosen one, and he will not have to divide his heart into pieces, it will belong exclusively to you, such a multifaceted, interesting and madly feminine beauty.