Does Your Boyfriend Like Other Girls' Photos? That's Why

It happens in life. The couple's relationship is normal, the guy doesn't give reasons for jealousy, the girl sits on the couch, looking through her pages on social networks, and discovers that her boyfriend liked the picture of another girl. And one more. And further.

The content of the article

• 1 Reasons for conflict
• 2 When the guy is innocent
• 3 Evidence of guilt
• 4 Don't panic
• 5 Everyone does it
• 6 What to do if things are bad

Sometimes this is enough to make a person feel jealous or insecure. This is often a cause for great concern. Why do guys post photos of other girls on social networks, although they themselves are in a relationship and, in any case, at first glance, everything is fine with them? Should I be upset about this at all? How did he even find this girl on Instagram and how many more does he follow? Such questions are haunted.

Dr. Jenn Mann, a practicing psychotherapist, explained what this can mean and what to do in a similar situation.

Reasons for conflicti

Her many years of experience show that the largest number of intractable conflicts in couples is associated with social networks. Females most often demonstrate feelings about this. Men with such problems seek help much less often. Of course, there are women who do not pay attention to whom they follow, whom they comment on, or who their partner likes. But they are rather the exception. And given the fact that in this case, most often the subject of interest is some familiar girl, and not a random, unattainable supermodel, this in most cases will raise questions and problems.

According to Dr. Mann, it must be borne in mind that most people are visual beings, what they see is important to them. Everyone loves looking at attractive people. And even if you're in a relationship and happy, that doesn't mean you've lost the ability to appreciate aesthetically pleasing images. However, there is a difference between admiration and heightened interest.

Dr. Mann, based on her many years of clinical experience, has identified two types of men who "like" pictures of other girls. In the first category, she classifies the innocent, in the second - the guilty.

When the guy is not guilty of anything2

Such guys may like pictures of other girls for a variety of reasons. Maybe he's trying to be nice, or maybe he just liked the photo, for example, he is attracted to this type of figure. In favor of his innocence is the fact that he doesn't really think about anything and he just likes a lot of what flashes in his tape. It may also be that his previous girlfriend didn't care what he did on social media. Even if he thought the girl he "liked" was attractive and sexy, he would never risk his current relationship.

Such a man evaluates his behavior based on his intentions, and does not think about how it might be perceived by others or what feelings it might cause in his partner. If you’ve never discussed each other’s behavior on social media and what might be causing you discomfort before, then don’t count on him reading your mind.

Evidence of guilt3

The guilty guy, most likely, is engaged in "fishing with live bait". His fault lies in the fact that he uses his "likes", sending a message to a woman who is interested in him. With their help, he tries to compliment her and get her attention. Often such men are active, noting a large number of photographs. They also tend to leave numerous comments. This behavior often develops into an active exchange of personal messages.

Don't panic4

Perhaps you have no cause for concern. Maybe your boyfriend has been looking at a photo of some girl in a bikini for 30 seconds, maybe he even took a screenshot and sent it to a group chat to share a great photo with his friends. But it is more likely that he scrolled this picture among all the others and absentmindedly clicked "like" just as he does with every photo in his feed.

He didn't discuss her, he didn't ask her out, he wasn't one of those creepy commentators, and he certainly didn't contact her. The verdict is your boyfriend is innocent. Jealousy is a disease that we are all prone to from time to time, but do not forget who he really loves.

If this happened 10 years ago, when there were not so many users on Instagram, it would be possible to arrange for your boyfriend to be interrogated who he is following and what he likes. At that time, most people had a hard time getting 10 likes, and people were more selective in their assessments and preferences. Today, literally everyone is on social media. Some users simply scroll through their news feed and check whatever appears, without analyzing whether this photograph of a former classmate on the beach deserves a "like" or not.

Everybody does it5

It is difficult to imagine that a girl herself does not view the account of some fitness handsome on Instagram, or at least some celebrity. We are all ordinary people, and everyone loves looking at cute, sexy people. You can appreciate someone's photo, and even mentally wish for this person, but this is where loyalty manifests itself. If you trust your man, you have nothing to worry about.

If we consider a more realistic situation, then you probably have a number of guys among the subscriptions. While most of them don't take seductive selfies like girls, you probably still enjoy their photos from time to time. Have you noticed that your boyfriend is jealous of someone who constantly comments on your posts? But you yourself most likely think that everything is harmless. So if you think your partner's behavior has become a problem in your relationship, first evaluate your social media behavior and whether you really are that much different.

What to do if everything is bad6

In any case, you should discuss the issue of each other's behavior on social networks. Such discussions are an important part of modern relations. If you tend to be morbidly jealous or spend a lot of time following your partner online, you should visit a few consultations with a psychologist before starting this conversation. If you belong to the majority and have a certain opinion about the acceptable boundaries of behavior, you should share your thoughts in order to avoid many problems in the future.

Sometimes those who automatically "like" are afraid that proposing to change their behavior on social networks will be an attempt to control or restrict freedom. You may be lucky and find it very easy to deal with this, but for most couples this is actually a pretty serious problem. Realize that you are unlikely to solve it in one conversation. You cannot change someone's opinion overnight. This takes time, and as your relationship develops, your boyfriend will likely develop a better understanding of your way of thinking and why one swipe of your finger can hurt you.

When you decide to have a serious conversation, Dr. Mann recommends starting with a small introduction: “Honey, we have been dating for five months and I have never asked you about what is acceptable to you and what is not on social media. I want to hear your thoughts on this and share my own. " You may be surprised at what you learn about your partner. Seek to understand his thoughts and feelings. You will get a lot more out of this conversation and will be able to judge whether he is considered innocent or guilty if you listen carefully to what he has to say and control your reaction.