Why Do We Fall In Love With A Certain Person

The state of falling in love is familiar to most people on earth, but still it is covered with a veil of secrecy, and sooner or later people ask themselves the question: "Why do we fall in love with a certain person?" Why is this particular person causing such feelings, what is it about him or me?

The content of the article

• 1 Why do we fall in love at all
• 2 Why do we choose a particular person and fall in love with him?

Why do we fall in love at all

First, I would like to very briefly talk about why and how people fall in love.

Doctors have shown that first there is a strong release of dopamine, a hormone that causes feelings of pleasure and happiness. A person remembers this pleasure next to another, strives to experience these feelings again.

Sooner or later, a person thinks that the relationship may end or that some kind of trouble may happen to a loved one. At this moment, adrenaline is released, which causes an increase in energy and a feeling of anxiety.

The alternation of the release of these two hormones is the painful composition of love. Although, of course, such a simple answer is not enough to understand why a person falls in love with a certain specific person.

Why do we choose a particular person and fall in love with him? 2

A large number of psychologists, psychiatrists and scientists have analyzed thousands of stories of meetings and falling in love in order to try to give at least a rough answer:

• You may be very similar indeed. After lovers get to know each other better, they often find common ground. They may have the same views on the roles of men and women, communication styles, acceptable ways of expressing emotions, and so on.
• Perhaps your loved ones are like your parents. It has been proven that a person you often like in something elusive can resemble a father or mother, some kind of reaction, age, worldview.

• Nice smell. Women are more likely to choose men with high testosterone levels for their specific male scent. Indeed, it is enough to smell an unpleasant smell at the beginning of a relationship for all feelings to evaporate.
• Body language that subconsciously signals openness to communication and relationships. The correct posture attracts increased attention and increases the chances of developing a relationship.
• A gaze that lasts longer than 2 minutes gives a clear signal of interest. A long and attentive gaze is often the first step to falling in love.
• Joint vivid experiences or impressions inevitably bring people together. Those who lived together in a situation, such as an adventurous trip, a roller coaster ride, were more likely to fall in love.

• Long-term superficial acquaintance can be the basis for further love. For example, neighbors or students in parallel courses, when people meet often, but do not have the opportunity to get to know each other better. Constant flashing before the eyes and at the same time mysteriousness is an excellent ground for the emergence of sympathy.
• A person is surrounded by beauty and prosperity. When a man or a woman dresses in expensive clothes, drives a beautiful car and lives in a prestigious area, they have a significantly higher chance of being liked. Accordingly, more people are attracted to them.
• External attractiveness, the presence of pronounced sexual characteristics. No matter how much they talk about the need for a rich inner world, the initial impression is often based on external data. Well-groomed and well-dressed people subconsciously make you want to come closer and be in a social circle.
• Pets that need to be walked, as well as visit various establishments for them, can become a bridge for sympathy. Lovers will always allow you to find topics for conversation. And also, caring for animals is subconsciously perceived as a signal of readiness to build a serious relationship and take responsibility.
• Common interests and common work often bring people together and can become a solid foundation for more serious feelings. The ability to conduct dialogues, to do a common cause allows you to get to know a person better and even love.

And yet, sometimes love arises by breaking all the rules and laws. People can be different, have different wealth and interests, differ in external flaws, and still be happy in love. So the question is: "Why do we fall in love with a certain person?" may remain open and disturb more than one generation.