Video: 5 Things That Are Ruining Your Marriage
Nicola Wolfinger, with the support of the University of Utah and Ted Huston, with the assistance of the US Department of Employment, decided to find out what affects the strength of marriage relationships. And they came to interesting conclusions.
- The most susceptible to divorce are couples who were married before the age of 18 and after 32. Well, for the youth - it is clear, they have not yet learned to adjust and endure. But successful people after 32, it turns out, do not want to change the usual course of life.
- People with higher education get divorced less. Here's the deal! It turns out that educated people find it easier to resolve conflicts in the negotiation process. In addition, they tend to calculate risks and analyze the consequences of actions in advance, and not rush into a maelstrom of emotions.
- If a man does not have a permanent job, divorce in the family is much more likely. And there is no need to talk about emancipation! After all, a man at home is unlikely to start cleaning, washing and preparing five dishes for dinner (who will divorce with such happiness!). He will most likely start whining, complaining about "stupid bosses", eating tons of junk food and surfing the Internet. In a word, it will turn from a man into a child. Is it possible to be married to a child?
- If family conflicts are hushed up, families fall apart. Psychologists say that unspoken grievances are like stones. And when too many of them accumulate, the boat of family life quietly sinks.
- But, most interesting of all, the highest percentage of divorces is observed in couples who, at the beginning of a relationship, simply burn out with love and passion. When emotions run high, it is impossible to think reasonably, and we idealize our partner too much. Subsequently, love is faced with disappointment and fierce hatred. And, as a result, with a divorce.