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Video: Why Men Don't Hear Women And How To Reach Them
How often do women complain about their beloved because he never hears her, not understanding why men do not hear women. Some exaggerate a little, but for the most part, men really often ignore the words of their companion. One could close our eyes to this, if some really important things were not missed. For example, when a wife asks her husband to pick up the child from kindergarten, meet mom at the station, or free up the weekend for a trip to the country. You need to understand that it is possible to deal with such a "disease", the main thing is to understand its cause.
The content of the article
- 1 The main reasons why men turn a deaf ear
- 2 What to do to be heard
The main reasons why men turn a deaf eari
The first thing to understand is that men and women have different minds. If girls are able to simultaneously do several things at the same time, for example, cook dinner, watch the child, clean up and wash things, then the guy is focused and high-quality performance of one task. And for this, he is ready to ignore everything that happens around, even if these things are more important than his occupation. Inattention has nothing to do with poor memory and forgetfulness.
When a guy realizes a problem, he fights with it, tries to listen to his beloved, after her first phrase. But, given some of the characteristics of the girls, it is this first phrase that may be the most important of all, and he will not hear it. The girls themselves are to blame for this, as they are very impulsive and constantly jump from topic to topic. Also, female speech is often very emotionally colored, and the male brain is directed towards expressions, outlined by joyful emotions, and is absolutely not attuned to negative or indifference. That is, he can listen to a joyful two-hour story about evening gatherings with his girlfriends for the whole evening, having absolutely heard a small phrase at the beginning that he needs to buy a loaf in a store.
It is also very difficult to reach out to a man in those moments when he is very passionate about something and from which he enjoys. And there are many such moments, it can be a passion for video games, watching a football match, having sex in the end. Some girls try to take advantage of such moments. And at the moment of the highest euphoria, they ask for any purchases, actions or other things. Moreover, almost always you can get an affirmative answer, which is simply unconscious and aimed at the earliest possible disposal of obsessive requests.
Literally in five minutes, the subject of this conversation will be completely forgotten, and if you repeat the question again, the answer may be completely opposite.
What to do to be heard2
After the question why men do not hear women, the question naturally arises of how to deal with this, but it is possible and necessary to deal with it. To be sure that you are heard, you need to adhere to several rules:
Make sure the brain is free and not busy with anything. It's not as easy as it sounds. It seems like reading a book or watching a movie can completely take over the mind. But if the plot is incredibly interesting to the guy, he can completely immerse himself in it, associating himself with the heroes and imagining himself in the situations described by the author
You need to ask for a few seconds. If you just state your thoughts, you can just see a nodding head or hear affirming hums. Such a reaction will not give any result. To understand that you are not being heard, you can simply ask a few questions, the answer to which can only be negative. If the reaction was in the affirmative, then the question was definitely not heard. The first sentence in the conversation should attract attention, the interlocutor should give up his business, and make it clear that he is ready for the conversation
- Form your thoughts clearly and specifically. The more nimble and veiled a woman expresses her request or desire, the less concretely the man understands it. It is because of this that you can often hear the phrase "he gave me not what I wanted, but I hinted to him for a month." This is a flawed strategy, if you want something, say so.
- It is unnecessary to use abstraction for your own benefit. Some girls, when they want to achieve some kind of action from a man, try to say this during sex, believing that in this way they can put pressure on a partner. In fact, nothing can be achieved in this way. An excited man will say and agree with everything the girl wants, just to finally get what she wants.
You need to understand that both partners are usually to blame for the fact that a man does not hear a woman. You must always be attentive to each other, listen to the beginning and end of all conversations and requests. Since such a seemingly trifle can cause a break in relations. Not worth a minute of attention.