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Video: Who Is Agender And How Are They Different From Other LGBT +
We hear talk about gender (in) equality and gender roles so often that we are already quite used to it. We even almost came to terms with the fact that gender and gender are different things. But as soon as we add just one letter to a familiar word, we embarrassedly climb into Google, lost in conjecture what this term means.
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- 1 Who is Agender?
- 2 6 signs of agender
So. Who are the agenders? How do they live and how do they differ from others?
Who is Agender? I
Agender is a person who does not identify himself with any gender. For comparison - the term "cisgender" refers to a person whose gender identity coincides with the biological sex.
Simply put, a man, born of a man and quite satisfied with this, and a woman, born of a woman, and confident in a woman's body are cisgender personalities.
A person (with a male or female set of genitals, hormones, etc.) who refuses to associate himself with the female or male sex - agender.
When you read articles about agender people, there will certainly be a mention of cisgender people. More precisely, about the need on the part of cisgenders to show respect and understanding to agenders.
What is showing respect? For example, the fact that you cannot personally decide which personal pronouns to use when referring to the agender. If we talk about the English-speaking environment, then the pronouns "they" and "them" should be used - they are neutral.
Here is a list of six things you need to know about agents in order to try to understand how these people live and how they feel.
6 signs of agender6
They are satisfied with the body in which they live
Some people believe that agender is always a person who is not comfortable living in his own body. As if they cannot accept their biological gender and experience excruciating suffering because of this.
Yes, it does happen. But not always.
Agenders can quite enjoy life in their own bodies and not even think about gender reassignment surgery. They just don't want to drive themselves into the box of "masculinity" and / or "femininity." In other words, you don't have to conform to conventional wisdom about what a person of your biological sex should look like to be happy.
As mentioned above, agender is about gender self-identification. Not about biological sex and not about sexual orientation.
Asexuality - on the contrary, a term that characterizes the complete absence of sexual attraction to any gender.
Don't think agendors are not sexually attracted or interested in romantic relationships. Are there asexuals among the agenders? Of course. As well as among cisgenders, for example.
How to contact you?
You might think that agenders don't use "masculine" or "feminine" pronouns at all, preferring exclusively neutral variants.
Not at all.
Agenders can use any personal pronouns, including "he", "she", "her", "him", etc.
If you are not sure how to contact a person, pay attention to how close people are addressing him. Or ask directly, but as gently and correctly as possible, in private. If you make a mistake, the best thing you can do is apologize and move on.
Agenders can quite play with the floor, choosing clothes, hairstyle and other elements of the image. Actually, that's what cisgenders do, don't they?
They refuse to classify themselves as one or another gender, but sometimes they may want to look a little more feminine or more masculine than usual. Or combine everything in your image at once - just according to your mood.
Appearance for an agender is freedom of choice and play. And also the opportunity to feel comfortable in your own body, without looking back at the generally accepted ideas about gender.
Let's analyze one more term. Gender fluid is a person who feels like a man or a woman. Its gender, as the name suggests, can flow from one form to another. Man, woman, transgender, multi-gender and so on - it's all about gender fluids.
Ruby Rose (Orange Is the New Black) told Elle magazine, “I'm not a guy. I don't feel like a woman, although I was born by her. I'm somewhere in the middle. I imagine it in such a way that I take the best from each of the sexes."
Gender fluid and agender are two different identifications. Although both terms are included in the group of non-binary identities.
Non-binary people are anyone who does not identify as exclusively male or female.
Are they just confused?
Queers (a collective term for gender and sexual minorities, translated as "strange"), transgender people and other people who stand out from the ranks of heterosexuals and cisgenders have time to listen to everyone in their lives. They are often not taken seriously, convincing them that they are simply "confused" and "it will all pass."
It may seem to you that "all these crazy" are trying to stand out from the crowd in this way. And someone will even think that all this is fiction and it is not clear why an entire article was devoted to these complex terms.
"I've never seen such freaks, where do you only get them?"
The fact is that representatives of this community (LGBT +) experience certain pressure from society, and therefore often do not declare themselves.
It is also a mistake to believe that this is all "some kind of new fashion." Such people have always existed, throughout the centuries-old history of mankind. Many cultures have terms describing such people.
Another very common misconception is that hostility and persecution will "cure" such people and relieve them of their desire to "follow fashion." In fact, the best thing you can do is try to understand the person who lives differently from you. This is what tolerance is all about - you don't have to agree with me, just try to understand me and don't try to convince me.