Why Do People Want To Be Childfree And What Is It?

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Why Do People Want To Be Childfree And What Is It?
Why Do People Want To Be Childfree And What Is It?

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One of the most important decisions we have to make is whether to have children or not. However, any solution to this issue is always considered in a social context, which is presented in terms of increasing the birth rate. In our culture, parenting is seen as integral to achieving satisfaction, happiness, and meaning in life, and as an indicator of success.

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  • 1 Why women don't want to have children
  • 2 Will a woman be happier without children
  • 3 It is not necessary to have children

The deliberate choice of childlessness, which is known as childfree, is still controversial, prejudiced, and even judgmental. First of all, such a reaction is demonstrated by women, whose gender identity and social value are associated with fertility and motherhood. Therefore, those who deliberately refused to have children are usually perceived negatively.

Childfree in itself is nothing new, but in the past, childlessness among women has often been attributed to poverty, disease, infertility, poor nutrition, and the decline in the institution of marriage, for example during wars. Children are now being abandoned by healthy, educated, sexually active and often legally married women in wealthy Western societies. For example, according to the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, in 2015, 7.4 percent of women of childbearing age voluntarily chose childlessness.

Why women don't want childreni

Everyone's motives are different, but in most cases this is due to certain social conditions, such as the availability of contraception, a decline in the status of the institution of marriage, an increase in the number of working women, as well as personal attitudes, including the desire for empowerment, personal freedom, self-development and mobility. …

The childfree group includes a wide variety of categories of women, but they also have some common personal and social traits. For example, in a recent study, British scientists Margaret Avison and Adriana Fernham found that compared to parents or those who want to have children, childless respondents have higher levels of desire for independence and lower scores on the scales of kindness and extroversion. They are also less religious and have liberal political views. In addition, their attitude towards love can be called more pragmatic than romantic.


The researchers divided women who do not want to have children into several categories. Among them there are those who agreed to childlessness at a fairly early age; the second category is represented by women who postpone the birth of children; there are also "compromisers" who follow the wishes of their partner; and those who have not yet decided whether they want children.

Will a woman be happier without children2

Science answers this question in the affirmative. Studies have found a negative relationship between having children and satisfaction with marriage and life. Having children is associated with decreased levels of happiness, especially among women in the United States, and this correlation has persisted for a long time.

The link between having children and declining life satisfaction may be due in part to simple selection effects, since the decision to become a parent is not randomly distributed among members of the community. For example, unhappy people are more likely to choose to become parents, perhaps hoping that having a child will help them become happier. Moreover, even outside of choice, this link is likely not directly related to the nature of children or parenting goals per se, but rather to the challenges of reconciling the demands of work from home. This problem is especially relevant for societies that cannot provide meaningful support to young parents.

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no children sign

Childless women, especially those from the millennial generation, are most often criticized for being selfish. But this statement in itself is rather dubious. First, there is no evidence that millennials as such (including those without children) are more selfish, as evidenced by their social behavior and social engagement. Secondly, in a broad global context, having children in itself can be seen as a selfish choice, given the deteriorating environmental situation and the fact that there are now a lot of children around the world who need adoption.

Moreover, many people want to have children, as this will help them change their attitude towards life, give it additional meaning, confirm their social status as successful adults and provide help and comfort in the long term. Which, again, can be seen as a manifestation of selfishness. In addition, when a decision is made on the number of children, their own wishes are taken as the basis, and not the needs and conditions of society. This is a fundamentally selfish choice.

It is not necessary to have children at all3

Very often childless women are asked the same question: "Who will take care of you in old age?" However, it is relevant for everyone, regardless of parental status. Of course, many parents can count on the support of their children in the last years of their lives. But this cannot be called a pattern, and having children is not a reliable insurance against the vicissitudes of old age.

childfree girl
childfree girl

For various reasons, children distance themselves from their parents, maintaining complete independence throughout their lives. Sometimes there is complete alienation, or a refusal or inability to care for elderly parents. Moreover, the money, time and energy spent raising children can be used to improve your financial situation by earning enough money to provide professional care in old age.

In general, women who refuse to have children make this decision for a variety of reasons. However, none of the researchers claim that most childfree women are single, unhappy, or just plain weird. In fact, it is often the other way around. Moreover, almost none of the childfree subsequently regrets their choice. Even if the absence of children means a lack of some kind of life experience, it does not make a person's life less worthy. Those who deliberately refuse to procreate can contribute to the public good in other ways, finding new meaning in life that is not related to motherhood.

Psychoanalyst Mardi Ireland wrote:

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