Why Aren't You In Touch With Your Childhood Friend Anymore?

In childhood, we are constantly surrounded by friends, and even the years of a student's time are impossible without them. Studying, homework sharing, and noisy parties. Friendship gives us the opportunity to feel next to a person who is close in spirit and views. But, time goes by and the girlfriends begin to move away. What's going on?

Well, firstly, a person is constantly evolving, his orientations and preferences change. And the situation leaves its mark. Let's say that you got a job in a reputable company, where a strict style of clothing is required, punctuality and balanced actions are welcomed. The people around you have time equal to money. You yourself do not notice how you get used to planning and expect that you will not be kept waiting for no good reason

And your friend is a freelance artist for whom forty minutes is not late at all. It has always been that way. But when you have become constantly in an atmosphere where the time of another is valued, it begins to cling to you internally. But, in response to a remark, you can only get an offense, you can also be called "mommy".

Another option is you get married. Yes, before that you spent all days with your friend, and she could easily sit with you until the morning. But now, besides her, a person has appeared in your life, on whom you want and should spend your time. And no remorse

A change in the hierarchy of significant people must occur, otherwise there would be no families and maternal instinct. The importance of the girlfriend decreases, and an adequate person should understand this. But if a friend does not want to leave your hospitable home and is offended, if you just want to spend time with your beloved, this is a bad sign! Either she has too low self-esteem and she is afraid of being "abandoned", or subconsciously she deeply envies you and wants to be in your place.

Вот и получается, что в период, когда проходит активное ваше становление как профессионала и как жены (матери), подруг становится всё меньше и меньше. С одними просто не о чем больше поговорить: слишком разную жизнь вы выбрали. А других просто не хочется видеть, потому что дружба превращается в выяснение отношений.

But the situation is no better with those friends who simply do not give you the opportunity to part with them. After all, they have constant problems: they did not take place in life and therefore strive for you to constantly come to their aid. At the same time, returning only reproaches in return. Even just talking about themselves, they seem to constantly find the reasons, thanks to which you did everything better. And your personal efforts are not important, because you can always remember your parents, start-up capital, connections, or, at worst, the innate biological rhythms of the body that allow you to wake up in the morning easier than her. And now your friendship is no longer based on mutual joy from communication, but on your sense of guilt. But this is exactly what you want to get rid of

Often the reason for the loss of your close communication with a friend can be your diametrically opposed chosen ones. For example, you are married to a guy a year younger than yourself, a football fan or a tourist; and your friend found herself a sponsor who is suitable for fathers age and collects fur coats and trips to the resort. Of course, you can chat on the phone and like each other's photo reports on social networks. But, you simply will not have the opportunity to meet and communicate. So friendship goes into the virtual sphere and becomes more like communication of good friends

By the way, the transfer of communication to the virtual area often becomes a reason for changing the format of friendship and reducing real warmth.

But, not everything is so sad. Childhood friends disappear for a reason, but in order to make room for us for new people. And best of all, your chosen one, and then your child, become your real friends.