Asking Your Boyfriend First Is Normal Or A Sign Of Weakness

In most cases, society is accustomed to the fact that the initiative in a relationship should come from the male representatives, and lovely ladies can only accept favorably the courtship, luxurious bouquets of flowers and lovely souvenirs.

The content of the article

• 1 Shyness and shyness
• 2 There are not so many handsome guys
• 3 How do the representatives of the stronger sex react to women's initiative
• 4 The reaction of women themselves to their initiative
• 5 What is the ideal relationship of two self-sufficient people

Nevertheless, it is often necessary to be present and, moreover, when the initiative to invite a guy on a date comes from the beautiful half of humanity. So when is the responsibility of inviting to the first date on the fragile female shoulders.

Shyness and shynessi

As it might not seem at first glance, in the modern world it is quite often possible to meet a girl who costs nothing to invite a guy out on a date. At the same time, she will not experience complexes or are ashamed of her act.

At the same time, the guys, on the contrary, amaze the fair sex with their shyness and shyness. As they say, we all come from childhood. Therefore, many psychologists quite deservedly believe that it is the total maternal control in childhood that prevents young people from establishing relationships with women, and even more so, inviting them out on a date. Therefore, the ladies have to take the initiative in their own hands in order to conquer the guy of their dreams.

There are not so many handsome guys2

Taking into account the fact that the number of the female population in itself significantly exceeds the number of males, it becomes clear why in our time women prefer not to wait for an invitation from a man, but to take the initiative into their own hands.

If we additionally take into account the fact that there are even fewer beautiful men, and a combination of beauty and intelligence is almost unrealistic to meet, then it becomes very clear that it is not worth dragging out time. So, dear ladies, invite the man you like for a walk and do not feel the slightest remorse at the same time.

How representatives of the stronger sex react to women's initiative3

Strange as it may seem, but in most cases, men are very positive about women's initiative in relationships. And, the decision of a lady to invite a guy on a date will surprise no one. In the crazy rhythm of our lives, it would be strange if men had enough free time not only to meet women, but also to court them and invite them out on dates.

Even if a woman is not only smart, but also good-looking, there is still a risk that the chosen one will simply not notice her. For example, more than one story has been described on the Internet about how a woman was constantly spinning in front of the eyes of a man she liked and even started smoking in order to often intersect with him in an office smoking room. And, nevertheless, it took almost four months for him to pay attention to her and ask for her phone number.

Reaction of women themselves to their initiative4

But, in practice, not always everything turns out as colorful as in real life. There are often cases when, after showing the initiative, women are not particularly satisfied with their actions. And the thing is that, having got her hands on a man she likes, she often throughout her subsequent life cannot take off the whole burden of family life.

Many of them point out that both the repair, which sooner or later will have to be done in the family nest, and the purchase of new furniture (a car, a summer cottage, and even a children's bicycle) have to be handled exclusively by the spouse.

The husband, accustomed to the fact that his wife is quite capable of coping with all the difficulties, simply turns a blind eye to everything that happens in the house. Sooner or later, a woman with one hundred percent certainty will get tired of such a question. This is not surprising at all, since any woman, no matter how strong she is, in the depths of her soul would like to feel like a stone wall behind her husband and shift all the responsibility for solving serious issues concerning the family, children and their common future onto him.

What is the ideal relationship between two self-sufficient people?

If we move away from the prevailing stereotypes about which of the partners should initiate dates and figure out from whom the first steps should come, it becomes clear that the right of the first steps should still remain with the man. Of course, as from any other rule, there may be exceptions to this, but, in principle, they are quite rare.

And by and large, figuring out whether the right decision to invite a guy on a date was made by a woman, you need to remember that any relationship should be equal. Both partners, both man and woman, should take turns taking the initiative and taking responsibility for their life together.