From Betrayal To Jealousy, Or Vice Versa: From Jealousy To Betrayal?

Infidelity is the main reason for divorce. Many people guess about this. But few can tell what drives people to infidelity. Research by University of Texas researchers David M. Buss and Todd K. Sheckelford examined several possible reasons for the infidelity. These include personality factors, the context of the relationship, and the relative value of the family to people in marriage.

The results of a survey of 107 married couples indicate that the reasons leading to infidelity are most often low consciousness, high narcissism and high conflicts. If we talk about social reasons, then this is sexual dissatisfaction and constant jealousy of the partner, leading to conflicts.

They say: jealous, that means he loves. And no matter how inclined we are to trust folk wisdom, it can sometimes be mistaken. Jealousy and love, as life shows, are completely opposite feelings. Psychologists say that jealousy can even provoke treason. It is generated from a feeling of selfishness, a desire to control everything, including the behavior of his spouse, who begins to violently resist this and deliberately goes to treason.

Jealousy gives rise to conflicts in the family, from which one wants to take a break, find reassurance both for the object of jealousy and for the jealous person himself. A husband or wife is trying to find warmth and affection on the side. Or you want to take revenge: why he can, but I can’t. And the word is followed by a deed that further aggravates the conflict. Therefore, jealousy and betrayal always go one after another, and it is not necessary that betrayal first follows, and then jealousy, it may be quite the opposite.

How to get out of this contradictory situation? Can learn to trust a partner, try to understand him, and not keep him under the thumb. Otherwise, the hellish machine called "jealousy" will destroy everything valuable in family relationships.