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Video: Sapiosexuality And How It Affects Your Relationship
The concept of "sapiosexual" appeared recently with the light hand of the British singer Marianne Evelyn Faithfull, who, during one of her interviews, threw a word among the people, and took root there. Despite its novelty, the term has already entered the Cambridge English Dictionary, and means: "a person who is sexually attracted to the intellect in people." However, the extraordinary developed mind and before in many aroused not only interest, but also passion. How is this different from today's sapiosexuals, and how to detect their signs in yourself or other people?
The content of the article
- 1 Children of the new reality
- 2 Expert opinion
- 3 Signs of sapiosexuality
- 4 The relationship of sapiosexuals
Children of the new reality
The term itself consists of Latin and English words: sapio, in one of its meanings, is translated from Latin as "to be reasonable, wise"; sexual, most likely, does not need interpretation. This concept encompasses many representatives of the Millennial generation, born after 1981 and shaped by digital technologies, network communications and other media resources that ensure the accessibility of almost any information.
According to American psychologist Paul DePompo, sexual attraction to people with outstanding intelligence has been noted at all times. But it is among the Millennials that stand out the largest number of those who argue that the human mind and the observation of how it is applied is for them the greatest erotic stimulus.
Research by sociologists, psychologists, and relationship experts in this area is just beginning to be carried out, and statistics, together with the results of observations and surveys, are not yet available. Today, on the network you can find the opinions of specialists and the people themselves who identify themselves as sapiosexuals, with their feedback on the perception of potential partners, needs and preferences in relationships.
But it is not known how often sapiosexuals create married couples with people who are equal and unequal in intelligence, how strong and durable these or those unions are. Today, this element of social reality is still Terra incognita.
As soon as the term itself appeared, it seemed to materialize a social phenomenon that existed without names and formulations, but for some reason remained deprived of the attention of specialists. Nevertheless, critics of the newly appeared phenomenon immediately appeared, who considered the movement pretentious at best, and discriminatory at worst.
Signs of sapiosexuality3
According to Diane Rabb, PhD, who specializes in transpersonal psychology, the brain is the largest erogenous zone in terms of sapiosexuals. She believes that by some signs it is possible to determine whether you or someone from your acquaintances belong to this category of people.
- Instead of an intimate foreplay with sensual caresses and possible oral sex, you are excited by a discussion on philosophical, psychological, political topics, a debate about microeconomics, allegories of the Heart of Darkness and other intellectual conversations.
- Even on the first date, you feel like you want to make love to a potential partner when talking to him activates your thinking, or his beautifully worded arguments make you change your point of view.
In the healthiest and happiest relationships, your bond with your partner goes far beyond physical attraction and sexual chemistry. It extends to intellectual properties that mean more to you in the long run than anything else
This is why so many people consider themselves sapiosexual. This does not mean that you do not value other qualities of the opposite sex or the beauty of the human body, but the attraction to intelligence remains above all.
Relationship of sapiosexuals4
You don't choose whether to be a sapio. This is part of your being. Communication and “mind connection” are of paramount importance to you. Therefore, a relationship with someone like you is more likely to make your relationship long-term, since intimacy for both is on a completely different level, going far beyond sex.
"If two people are equal in intellect, then we can expect that their interest in each other is likely to remain strong, and the length of their life together will be long," says American psychologist Nikki Martinez.
Presumably, sapiosexuals can be overly selective when dating someone because they need mutual "brain attraction" for true happiness in a relationship. According to Dr. DePompo, a problem can arise if an intelligence mismatch is found. This imbalance sets up an unhealthy relationship dynamic when comparisons of "better than" or "worse than" begin. Relationships in which partners see each other as equal are healthier and last longer.