What Does A Woman Remember About A Man After The First Date?

You worry about the impression you made on the woman you liked, with whom you had a date the day before. But did you know that her plans for your future relationship are closely related to what she most clearly remembered about you after the meeting. Recent studies have shown that women tend to remember a man's appearance and physical qualities better when they see him as a short-term partner. In the event that a woman is interested in a long-term relationship, she pays more attention to what the man says, and this is more likely to be deposited in her memory.

The content of the article

• 1 Experimental confirmation
• 2 Quirks of female memory

Experimental confirmationi

What does a woman remember most about a man after she first meets him? This question has served as a topic for research conducted at the University of Michigan by a group of scientists led by Professor and PhD in Psychology Terrence Horgan. The answer depends on whether the woman is looking for a short-term sex relationship or a permanent one. Evolutionary psychology suggests that a man's physical characteristics matter more to women who are looking for short-term rather than long-term partners. That is, reproductive goals and intentions affect people's memory.

The study was published in the American Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. The experiment involved 125 undergraduate students who were divided into two groups. The first half of the participants were asked to rate the man with the video as a partner for one night, the second group - to consider him as a person for a long-term, committed relationship. The participants were then shown a video for which a "medium attractive" white, tall (193 cm) male of 28 years of average build was selected. During filming, he spoke directly to the camera, talking about his interests, character, exercise habits, education, career aspirations. He also shared some information about his background and family.

After watching the video, the subjects were subjected to an unexpected memory test, the purpose of which was to find out how much girls can remember about the physical characteristics of the man and his oral statements.

Freaks of female memory2

The researchers found that women who were asked to rate a man as a devoted partner remembered what he said better than his appearance. The participants who considered the young man as a partner for one night more accurately remembered his physical and physical features than what he said.

These results are consistent with popular theories of evolutionary psychology and indicate rational memory selectivity. If a woman is just going to sleep with a man, it is not so important whether they have something in common and whether he is interesting to her. The main thing is whether she attracts her to him or not. However, if a woman is thinking about spending a long period of time with a man, she is likely to be more concerned about whether they are intellectually and emotionally compatible.

“Our findings are consistent with theoretical ideas about the role of evolutionary processes, namely: mating strategy, female preferences in relation to specific signals, potential partner value of a man,” Professor Terrence Horgan and his colleagues summed up their research. “Ideally, a woman may prefer a man with good genes as a partner, that is, physically attractive, or having a high status, potential resources (for example, his declared profession and ambitions). However, the relative importance of each of these signals (good genes or status) varies somewhat depending on social conditions, environmental threats, and the type of relationship a woman is seeking with a man."

The group of scientists has not expressed an intention to conduct such a study among male students. Obviously for the reason that psychologists are well aware of the properties of male attention in relation to women. When they first meet girls, guys are always focused more on their appearance than on other qualities, which means that their memory is captured primarily by a woman's appearance.