How To React If A Girl Is Texting Her Ex

How do guys usually feel when they find out that their passion continues to communicate with a young man with whom she met earlier? Fright? Jealousy? Anger? Maybe confusion? And what should be done in this case? What should a man do when he finds out that his girlfriend is texting an ex? It is definitely not worth it to sit back, but it will not be easy to decide on an action plan.

The content of the article

• 1 Correct reaction is the first step to knowing what to do with the problem
• 2 We develop a strategy, decide on an action plan

Correct reaction is the first step to knowing what to do with the problem

The first thing to do when you find out that your girlfriend is texting her ex is to understand how you feel. In truth, any reaction is correct, only each person has his own.

If you are a cheerful guy who sees only positive sides in everything, then for sure you will find a lot of advantages here too. For example, you do not need to spend 24 hours talking with your beloved, because you have a replacement, and you yourself can safely allocate time for some other business. In addition, an ex-boyfriend is better than stupid envious girlfriends who keep filling up your beloved's tanks.

He knows her well, and if they continue to communicate, it means that their relationship is friendly. In principle, you yourself can start communicating with him, it is possible that he is not only a great ex-boyfriend with whom your girlfriend is “just friends”, but he will also become a reliable companion for you.

For those who do not like this way out of the situation, the absolutely opposite option is suitable. You can always fall into a berserker rage: throw a violent tantrum, destroy an apartment, throw away a girl's mobile phone. You should not overdo it, otherwise the neighbors may call people in white coats with tranquilizers and a straitjacket.

And if you are completely inadequate, and you are not worried about criminal liability for causing grievous bodily harm, then you can safely turn to assault.

Those who are not particularly worried about such turns of fate can do nothing. While you are relaxing and learning Zen, let your beloved do what she wants: she is, after all, an adult and a free citizen of her country, who has the right to commit any actions that are not contrary to the Criminal Code. But of course, alternatively you can just talk to each other and discuss what you like or dislike about the situation.

We develop a strategy, define an action plan2

Communication with former lovers is not always bad, but if you are sure that this is not good, and you have a potential competitor (who, moreover, has a number of advantages), then you will have to act decisively. Here, as in the case of the reaction, it is necessary to choose what is closest to you. It is difficult to advise something specific in a situation where a girl is texting with an ex, but here are some options:

Plan A "Insidious". It is not known what this type is, who has riveted the attention of your beloved, so it is better not to take risks and not approach him. Ideally, if you will in every possible way hinder their communication. If this is an SMS correspondence, look for any opportunity to take possession of your girlfriend's phone so that she does not recognize it, delete the messages and the competitor's number itself.

If they communicate on social networks, you probably know how to turn off the Internet. Or vice versa, while the girl does not see, go to her page and throw this guy on the black list. But be careful! If you are dating young Miss Marple, then this plan is initially doomed to failure.

Plan B "Militant". If you are a true alpha male and you are determined to win back your woman at any cost, then you shouldn't be careful. The least flawed way to resolve a conflict is to get a phone number or a link to a competitor's page, contact him and calmly explain that you slightly dislike what he writes to your beloved. Did not help? Or maybe even the guy admitted that he has grandiose plans for your significant other?

It's time to start the second stage - to make an appointment for a "purely masculine" conversation, where the fists will say everything for you. But here you need to thoroughly prepare: find out more about this type, especially with regard to his physical fitness.

And just in case, find out if he has any "cover" (relatives in law enforcement agencies, friends-paratroopers, etc.). And if it is important for you that your beloved's sleep remains strong, it is better to keep her in the dark.

Plan B "Obsessive". The name of the plan should speak for itself. If your beloved began to pay less attention to you, you need to fix it. I noticed that she had received a message, and she was going to answer - pick her up and spin her in your arms, persuade her to take a walk right now or watch a movie. And when she's distracted, go back to Plan A.

If that doesn't work, openly show dislike for her ex and dissatisfaction with the fact that they communicate. And do not forget to show yourself from the best side: give gifts, say compliments, take her on dates more often, in general, in every possible way remind her that she is dating you, not her ex.

Remember that any course of action can be ineffective. It is best, of course, to remain calm and behave like a reasonable and balanced person. And the right decision will come by itself. And the most important thing is to trust your girlfriend and not allow yourself to doubt her.