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Video: How To Know When A Relationship Comes To An End - 5 Signs Of A Breakup
The ending of the novel clearly looms on the horizon and you urgently need to do something? Or maybe you wind yourself up and with your suspicions and “let's talk” will only make it worse?
The content of the article
- 1 Back to the future
- 2 And speak and be silent
- 3 He (a) pisses you off
- 4 Sex
- 5 Doesn't try
- 6 Express test
We are all used to seeking advice and help from third parties when it comes to relationships. Sometimes it is really sobering: the merciless hand of a friend rips off your rose-colored glasses, pushes you out of the window of your castle in the air, and here you are lying on the gray asphalt of reality. It hurts, sadly and unbearably I want to cry. Or kill (the degree of your cruelty also depends on regular mood swings and the success of today's makeup).
We will always seek help from friends, mothers and other trusted persons. Getting advice, talking out, crying into your vest is useful. But do not forget that the full picture of the relationship is visible only to you. Therefore, read our "symptoms" and critically assess the situation with your beloved.
Back to the futurei
When he tells you about his plans for life, does he include you there? “I want to move abroad, I will be better there” or “Maybe we should think about emigration?”? How often does “we” sound in his reasoning? If a man is serious and plans to continue to share the refrigerator, bed and living space with his lady, then he subconsciously uses the plural, talking about his plans, dreams and goals.
Do you discuss your plans at all? If trust and desire to share the most intimate have disappeared between partners, then problems are inevitable.
And speak and be silent2
Are you comfortable communicating with each other? Not about the weather, not about what to cook for dinner, but in general? Do you talk about everything and nothing at once, as in the first days of meeting? If the answer is yes, you are on the right track. If you can't remember the last time you joked together, said nonsense, discussed films in the cinema, and argued about the Game of Thrones finale, then you should sit down and talk. And no longer about nonsense.
Another important indicator is that you should be comfortable in silence. Surely, you have friends with whom every exit "to the people" is torture. It seems to be fun with her, you can spend all day running shopping / cycling, etc., but you get tired of talking to her. And the prolonged pauses in the conversation leave a feeling of awkwardness and a desire to add cognac to a cup of coffee.
And there are friends and girlfriends with whom it is just comfortable to be silent. Sip a latte in silence, admiring the view from the window. Just sit in the park and think. Each about its own. But you are so comfortable in this silence! It doesn't cost you anything to have a lively conversation. But you don't need that. With this person, you don't have to pretend, put on a mask, and frantically exterminate awkward pauses.
You communicate with words and thoughts.
This is how harmonious relationships between people look like.
He (a) pisses you off3
If your jokes annoy him, you hate his manner of speaking, and it is literally difficult for you to be with each other, then a serious problem is ripe. Cooling feelings, unspoken resentments - you have to deal with this.
We don't think it's worth explaining. Of course, if you initially did not have a great sexual appetite, then your desire to spend time together dressed up looks quite natural.
If one or both of you keep avoiding sex, or doing it like brushing your teeth, the problem is obvious.
A separate point: if this was preceded by serious emotional upheavals, stress at work, etc., then you should enlist the support of each other. Do not blame, threaten or issue ultimatums. Speak frankly and calmly.
Do all girls pamper their boyfriends with perfect skin smoothness and lace underwear 24/7? After a certain time, both the guy and the girl often relax and stop so actively "conquering" each other, as they did at the beginning of the novel.
What does this include besides stretched sportswear and "grandmother's" panties?
You stopped striving to please each other. Prepare a gourmet dinner and delight him after a hard day? Damn it, there are dumplings in the freezer. Give her flowers? I already gave them to her recently. Well, almost recently. So, last year I definitely gave her something.
When this trepidation leaves the relationship, they are threatened at least by a crisis, at most - by collapse.
The more positive answers are typed, the less positive the forecast is prepared for your relationship.
- Irritation with a partner for no reason. He was not rude, did not offend, and did not forget to lower the toilet seat. He just annoys everyone that most recently you liked about him: his attitude to life, your relationships, his sense of humor, style of dress and behavior.
- In separation, you do not miss each other, but rather try to delay the moment of reunion.
- You constantly argue, even on any trifle (splashing out negative), or, on the contrary, do not enter into discussions at all (this person is no longer so dear and dear to you, and therefore his opinion does not interest you in general).
- Intuition. Rumors about female intuition are floating around for a reason: if the sixth sense persistently whispers that the case smells fried, you should stop and listen to it.
- Depression, apathy, despondency occur before meeting with a partner and disappear when you are with him? An excellent sign. If antidepressants lose all their effect when you meet with a man in the evening, then the reason is not at all in PMS and not in bad weather.
To love is to want to touch. This is a very short test to test your sexuality.
All about how to break off a relationship if there is absolutely nothing to save, we will tell in the next article.