Table of contents:
- Argument one: friendship between a man and a woman always gives way to falling in love
- Argument two: if a guy has a relationship, it will be an obstacle to friendship with a girl
- The third argument: men and women are too different, and therefore they will not be able to be friends3
- It turns out that there can be friendship between men and women?
How many anecdotes exist about male and female friendship, in which there are public stereotypes that friendship between men is real, strong and indestructible, friendship between women is always betrayal, competition and hypocrisy, but friendship between a man and a woman does not exist in principle.
The content of the article
- 1 The first argument: friendship between a man and a woman is always replaced by falling in love
- 2 Argument two: if a guy has a relationship, they will be an obstacle to friendship with a girl
- 3 Argument three: men and women are too different, and therefore they will not be able to be friends
- 4 It turns out that there will be friendship between men and women?
It's just that reality confronts us with betrayal within male friendship, and with the enmity of two old friends over a girl (by the way, a very popular story in world literature, and for good reason), and with the almost sisterly relationship of two women who are not relatives to each other, passing through their whole life. All these stereotypes simply do not hold up in practice. But what about the very friendship between a man and a woman, which supposedly does not exist? In this article, we will look at the main arguments of her opponents and figure out what is wrong with them.
Argument one: friendship between a man and a woman always gives way to falling in love
The favorite argument of all opponents of friendship between the sexes, only on the basis of what they make this statement, remains a mystery. The average man has contacts with hundreds of women in his daily life, while women communicate in different circles with no fewer men, but somehow we do not see everyone falling in love with everyone.
Falling in love is an exception to the rule when, among this hundreds of different women, a man singles out “the very” one that overshadows all the others, to whom he is equal. The same is true for women. Of course, there are overly amorous individuals who change their love interest every day, and it is really problematic for them to make friendships with the opposite sex, but for most people, the object of falling in love is usually in a single minority compared to the rest of the opposite sex.
That is, the chances that a random man will not fall in love with a random woman is many times greater than the chances that this will happen. We remain indifferent to the majority of members of the opposite sex throughout life, choosing only a select few. And the assertion that friendship between a man and a woman will always grow into love has no basis at all.
But it is easy to calculate those who make such statements. These are the eternal inhabitants of the friend zone who are trying to replace their love for a girl who is indifferent to them for a fake friendship. And then they amuse themselves with the hope that this "friendship" will surely turn into falling in love with time. Only, firstly, such a relationship has never been friendship, and secondly, they are not destined to turn into such a desired love for the victims of the friend zone on her part.
Argument two: if a guy has a relationship, it will be an obstacle to friendship with a girl
In the view of the supporters of this position, all the girls are jealous bitches who see in every woman around them a rival who wants to take their beloved away. Alas, such people can only sympathize, because it is simply useless to give some reasonable arguments here. The author of this article knows a life situation in which a close friend of one guy introduced him to his future wife, and then she was a witness at their wedding. But according to the logic of the supporters of the second argument, after meeting, this bride had to immediately get rid of her friend, who introduced her to her future husband. It's funny.
There are undoubtedly overly jealous people of both sexes in the world. But more often than not, such unreasonable jealousy becomes only a hindrance for themselves. And the cases when opposite-sex friends are both happily married and maintain friendly relations that are not harmed by unreasonable jealousy on the part of the spouses are much more common than it seems.
Is there real friendship between men? You can find out about this in our next article!
The third argument: men and women are too different, and therefore they will not be able to be friends3
Another argument from the inhabitants of the one-dimensional black-and-white world, who are able to communicate only with the same as they are. Fortunately, most people are not. The argument contains two errors at once, and we will analyze both.
First, he seems to argue that men and women do not have common topics of conversation in principle. Apparently, all the conversations among men are exclusively about fishing, and women - about new cosmetics, and finding intersection points will not work in principle. We can only guess what the supporters of this argument are talking about with their girls and wives. But most likely, they simply do not have girls and wives, because by virtue of the first argument, they are still in the friend zone. As for the rest of people, whose interests are not limited to two or three topics, it is usually not difficult to find something in common with representatives of the opposite sex.
Both men and women can play sports together, read the same books, watch movies, travel to interesting places, have the same hobby. In the real world there is a huge number of things, themes and hobbies that unite people regardless of gender, and only in the universe of these unfortunate people everything comes down to exclusively separate "male" and "female" interests.
Second, the first time they meet a woman who is genuinely interested in football and is a fan of the same sports team, the proponents of the third argument may experience a strong break in patterns. Many "male" and "female" topics for testing often turn out to be not so attached to gender characteristics.
It turns out that there can be friendship between men and women?
Certainly. No far-fetched arguments will interfere with a sincere friendship between a guy and a girl. Take care of them and do not pay attention to the opinion of those who are less fortunate in life.