Table of contents:
- How exactly does he look? I
- Looking at women is part of masculine nature2
- Looks like he wants sex? 3
- And if it was him on purpose!? 4
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Without a doubt, every woman dreams that her chosen one would never, under any circumstances, look at other young ladies, and even talking about treason is scary. But in reality, very often the interest of a loved one fades over the years and he is increasingly staring at other skirts, or even sitting secretly on dating sites, flirting with some obscure individuals. So why do men look at other women and what to do about it?
The content of the article
- 1 How exactly does he look?
- 2 Looking at women is part of masculine nature.
- 3 Looking - means he wants sex?
- 4 And if it was him on purpose !?
How exactly does he look? I
Firstly, one should distinguish when a man just looks, flirts, but does nothing more, or when he is really ready for treason and an affair on the side. Secondly, representatives of the stronger sex often do not even notice that they are looking too closely at someone's slender / plump legs, because for a man this is completely normal by his nature, and he does not always perceive a beautiful girl as a future sexual partner. To put it bluntly, he just stares.
If your chosen one is staring at some beauty or flirting a little, then be calm, nothing bad happens. In our society, it is considered quite normal to compliment unfamiliar girls, as well as to give up a seat on a trolley bus or help carry a heavy bag.
Often, elementary upbringing looks like flirting and it is not so easy to distinguish between them. Although, however, flirting with other women is not always as scary as it seems, especially if the spouse does not hide you from the eyes of another young lady, but on the contrary, wears a wedding ring, and in general, completely demonstrates that, they say, “I’m already busy, you just have beautiful legs."
A man may not see anything wrong with smiling at another girl, because despite the attention to her, he is still with his beloved wife and is not going to cheat on his soul mate. So you shouldn't be jealous of your spouse because of an accidental compliment to a young saleswoman, most likely, he does it without any thought of anything more.
Looking at women is part of masculine nature2
Another reason a guy looks at other girls is because he is a man. Sorry for the pun, but it is. It is common for representatives of the stronger sex to evaluate the appearance of girls who are in their field of vision. More to the point, many men have increased levels of male hormones when they look at a beautiful and feminine lady. So let him look at me! - the companion of such a big-eyed male is upset.
But there is no reason to be sad, because your chosen one does not regard beauty precisely as sexuality, rather it is his natural reaction, for example, a pink-cheeked baby can make you tender, or beautiful flowers will cause charm. But you won't drag a child home for adoption just because you are a woman and react to children with tenderness? Likewise, your spouse will not run to have sex with the girl on whom he stopped his gaze, even if she seemed beautiful to him.
Looks like he wants sex? 3
And if your chosen one still looks at the beauties passing by, fantasizing about sex? This happens, but extremely rarely, because this requires more frank visual images than just a dressed female, even if with good shapes.
Confirmation that your spouse is looking at another young saleswoman not for the sake of realizing his lust is that on the beach, where you can see almost all the "forbidden" parts of the body, men very rarely look at beauties, but go about their business, sunbathe, swim and etc.
If you still get mad when your man looks at other women, then there is a good way to relieve tension - ask your husband what he likes about this lady and start talking about it with him. You will be surprised to understand that the spouse considers a passing girl just as a picture, and not a future mistress. Most importantly, do not conduct a discussion in the style - "she is so scary, and I am so beautiful." Remember - this person is not a competitor to you, she is just a woman who will soon leave.
And if it was him on purpose!? 4
But there is a situation when a loved one begins to compare you with other women, and, moreover, clearly not in your favor, what then to do? There is an opinion among men that if your wife has any flaws, then the feeling of competition will make her fight them more actively. Unfortunately, this is not the case.
If for the stronger sex the feeling of competition can be the meaning of life, then for beautiful ladies all this is very difficult and requires colossal expenditures of energy, as well as nerves, and in the end will lead to deep emotional exhaustion. The spouse will either withdraw into herself, or will do something, even get a result, but not happiness.
An insecure lady will change herself not at all because of a sense of competition, but only out of fear of losing a relationship that is dear to her. If your beloved compares you with other representatives of the weaker sex for this, then just try to explain to him that this does not work with girls, and it is better to just talk to you calmly, and not scatter compliments about other women.
There are, however, a worse option, a man has low self-esteem and he is simply realized, mocking his wife - "you have small breasts, but Masha … You have two extra pounds, but Natasha …" In this case, you should approach to address the issue in a complex way, firstly, a lady with normal self-esteem would not tolerate this at all, which means that you and your beloved have formed a stable "psychological couple", you are a victim, he is an aggressor, and he looks at others not because something is wrong with you not so, but only for the sake of mockery.
But only a specialist will help here, so there are two options - either go to a psychologist, or you can simply find a person who will appreciate and take care of you.
Whatever it was, a person can look anywhere, the main thing is the attitude towards you, because love is first of all actions, maybe your chosen one looks at that beauty over there to give you the same dress tomorrow?