6 Reasons Why Your Girlfriend Doesn't Respect You, But Should She?

Respect implies acceptance by a person of the merits and qualities of another person, without condemning his thoughts and actions. Sometimes these differences run counter to their own principles and concepts. To respect means to see in another a person equal to oneself. So why doesn't a woman respect a man in a relationship?

The content of the article

• 1 Crime against the "ideal"
• 2 Age difference and skillful manipulation
• 3 Power of habit
• 4 Envy
• 5 The financial side of the issue
• 6 Not the first

Crime against the "ideal" i

When choosing a man, most often, a woman is guided by some abstract ideal created by her in her subconscious. And in real life, when faced with the feelings and actions of "his" man, he finds striking differences between the ideal and the real man. And what? The woman is not going to give up and includes all the basic instincts to implement her plan to get the “perfect man”.

The woman considers the man her property, her prize, her toy, and tries to extend her power over him without observing certain moral boundaries. Does her property have the right to her own, alien to her, desires and needs? This is her toy and it will lie where she put it! This is the first and probably the main reason for a woman's disrespect for a man.

A woman considers herself the best thing that could happen to a man in his unhappy life, before meeting her. He should be grateful to fate for this and, of course, to her. This gratitude should not have boundaries, it should be shown and expressed daily and every minute, with awe and reverence for "her deity."

And if that doesn't happen, what respect is there! Here the woman has a painfully "correct" thought - she needs to be educated. Begins correction of behavior, speech, training habits of appearance. A lapdog, not a man, should not be respected here, but should look after.

A woman, in her opinion, considers herself the main and only adornment of a man's life, and therefore a man devotes all his thoughts and actions only to her, admiration and praise only for her. And if not, then there is no time to respect any desires that complicate her life. There is not a minute to lose, you need to remind the man what is most important in his present and future.

Age difference and skillful manipulation2

In a situation where a man is older in age, a woman begins to play the role of a little girl. And the little girl does not understand, and is not at all obliged to understand that the man has other important things to do, except to pamper and pardon his doll. A man should be happy only from the thought that she is his girl and allows himself to be loved. The little girl has no idea about respect, she already does a favor with her presence in his life.

The man is younger in age, and another basic instinct is triggered in the woman - the maternal one. There is no respect here, here it is necessary to surround with care of such completeness that there is not enough time to be interested in the child, whether you like it or not. Here and feed, dress up, suggest where to work, show what to watch and what to do in your free time, when to go to bed, and tirelessly demand words of gratitude for being picked up and warmed up.

In a relationship with a man of the same age, respect does not remain, methods of manipulating a man are used. The methods of manipulation depend on the level of upbringing and intelligence of the woman. An intelligent and well-mannered woman focuses on the strength of a man, his desire to be the head of the family, protection, provider of pleasure. There are no other tasks, there is only him, men, a "voluntary" desire to ensure a decent life for his woman.

Her task is to be present and enjoy the life created for her. Here, a woman gently furnishes her decisions as a man's choice: you beat me off from numerous admirers, you insisted on a wedding, you decided that we needed a child, you wanted me to take care of the house. Manipulation of one's physical weakness, health, children - these are already well-known, but still effective methods.

They enter constantly, sometimes unconsciously, in any questions, and in situations when arguments end or a love-passionate connection weakens. You should! You promised! Gently and ingratiatingly or rude and cynical, from time to time it slips in women. You are weak! Look, you are no better than others! This is the method of manipulating women who are not so well-bred.

They try to belittle or prick their man, squeeze out a sense of guilt, they still have the same manipulative actions, but not covered with beautiful words and not wrapped in fake tenderness. How can you respect someone who is led by all this? Not. Swallowed and okay, my good!

Power of habit3

When everything is good, at first glance, and love and harmony reign in relationships, where does respect for a man go? The so-called force of habit. The woman gets used to the man's words and behavior. The stability of the relationship convinces her that the man is completely submissive, and there is no longer any need to deal with him all the time. He is already well-trained and trained. An object that does not require attention does not have the right to vote, do not get out of schedule and you will not be punished.

Envy4

The restless female envy also contributes. This is where there is no limit and peace. Comparing your man with male colleagues, with male friends or neighbors. A woman will find something in which her husband is inferior to someone: Ninkin returns from work with flowers every day, Mashkin gave her a salary card, Sergei tango can dance, the boss gave his wife a car, my sister and husband spent their vacation abroad … And how to respect “our own” after that?

One disappointment. And a man admits such misadventures, does not move, does not indulge and does not leave, does not put her in her place. To indulge means that claims and demands will grow exponentially. It is more convenient for a man to ignore all female babbling. Let him not respect, let him grumble. As long as she imposes borsch on him with grumpy comments with a great favor, everything is fine.

The financial side of the issue5

An equally important, in some cases almost the main issue is financial. A financially prosperous man by default (as a woman thinks) is obliged to protect her from the problem of where and how, what and where it comes from, is paid. And there is no need to demand reward or respect, is it possible to measure “my” love for you with money? It is a man's duty, and duty implies the performance of actions, and not someone's respectful attitude.

With equal financial positions, a note of blackmailer turns on in a woman: you want me to look appropriate, your well-being is judged in my appearance, so household financial holes are your problems, and I earn my beauty myself. Such scams exclude respect, otherwise the trick will not work. Does a woman earn more than a man?

Well, then a man not only cannot have desire, he must only desire what his mistress wants. Subject to full support from a woman, a man not only desires at her will, but is also born in order to anticipate her thoughts and persuade her to let him fulfill her whims, and not work out, as others think. The servant is not necessary, and it is not necessary, to respect, you pay for the necessary service and that's it.

Not the first such6

When a man is not the first in a woman's life, there is no question of respect, whether the question is better than the previous one or not. If a man is better in comparison, then he is used to demonstrate his importance as a woman, trying to prove to everyone and to himself that a woman is worthy and has more than what she had with another.

If the man is not better, then work is done on the mistakes in the upbringing of the "ideal", taking into account the previous relationship. In both cases, redoubled efforts are made to correct the behavior of the man, and the man acts as a guinea pig. And who is worthy of respect? Only a woman.

What is the fault of all the above "unfortunate" men? In indulgence. In not defending your rights and your word. In the choice of unworthy women. Maybe men are so stupid and spineless? Or are men just warm and comfortable under the wing of a powerful manipulator?