Table of contents:
- Genetic memory
- Modern heroes2
- New "adult" experiences3
- An attempt to break out of the ordinary4
- Low self-esteem5
- "He's not your match" 6
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An almost classic life situation: a nice, polite and modest guy takes care of a girl very nicely. Gives flowers, escorts to the entrance, is always ready to be there and surround with attention and care. But to this favorite of mothers, grandmothers and teachers, the girl prefers a brutal, impudent boor who dares everyone around, does not mind putting his fists into action, has bad habits and boldly embarks on any adventures, including those with a criminal connotation.
The content of the article
- 1 Genetic memory
- 2 Modern heroes
- 3 New "adult" experiences
- 4 An attempt to break out of the ordinary
- 5 Low self-esteem
- 6 "He's not your match"
Moreover, his attitude towards the girl herself is also far from ideal. He may completely disregard her interests and feelings, forget about things and events that are important to her, even change and be rude. And yet, she stays with him. Why is this happening? How is it that contrary to common sense, girls are crazy about the second type of guy?
In terms of instincts, humans are not much different from animals. Most of them were formed even before the formation of Homo sapiens (that is, humans of the modern type) as a biological species. And one of the basic instincts - reproduction inevitably demanded from females to choose a mate for themselves based on how strong, strong, initiative and, ultimately, dominant over other males.
The women of primitive society were attracted exclusively by these qualities, since it was they who provided food, safety for offspring and respect from their fellow tribesmen. Modest or weak men had significantly less chances. Tens of thousands of years ago, in order to survive and raise his authority among the rest, a man had to be aggressive, active and ruthless.
Centuries and even millennia have passed, civilizations appeared on Earth and human society was seriously transformed. In some ways, women's preferences have changed, however, modern women, like their distant predecessors, are not indifferent to male brutality, strength and charisma. Genetic memory, which at one time made it possible to ensure the survival of the genus and contributed to its development, is one of the important factors in modern sex relations.
In the 21st century, human relationships have become much more complex. Today, the most physically strong, strong and aggressive is not always the most influential and authoritative. Rather, the opposite is true. In the modern world, intelligence, money, talent, the ability to win over people, find a common language with them are much more important. Not with brute force, of course. That is why girls prefer to marry for wealthy, charming and reliable men who can raise children in the "right" way, give a decent education and provide them with good starting positions in adulthood. But at the same time, they really fall in love and, as they say, “lose their head” only with “bad” guys. Instincts still work flawlessly, and the emotions of young and inexperienced girls in life, in most cases, prevail over reason and logic.
However, it would certainly be wrong to reduce everything to primitive animal instincts. The human psyche in general, and the female psyche in particular, is much more complicated. Therefore, the fair half like "bad" guys for a variety of reasons.
New "adult" experiences3
Most girls are brought up like little princesses. They try to protect the girl as much as possible from the negativity and harsh truth of life. Mom and Dad diligently protect her from all troubles, but at the same time they strictly monitor that her daughter does not allow herself anything superfluous, does not make friends with children who are "unreliable" from their point of view, is educated, neat and obedient.
But childhood ends, and the matured girl realizes that the world around her is much more complicated and, in addition to pink, there are many more different colors and shades in it. And at this very moment she meets some "bad guy" who desperately embarks on any adventures, is independent, loves to experiment and generally does not look so much like those "good" children whom her parents or grandmothers admire. The girl quickly realizes that with this guy you can afford a lot of things that she did not even think about before, that was under a strict ban. Something that will allow you to escape from parental care and feel like an adult and independent. The effect of contrast between the past "childhood" life and the new, full of adventures, adult is triggered. And this impudent one, independent of public opinion,the guy plays the role of a kind of guide to that brave new world.
An attempt to break out of the ordinary4
In the modern world, the daily life of most women is planned, measured and rather monotonous. Bright, extraordinary events rarely happen in it. On the one hand, this is the notorious stability that many dream of. But any woman just needs an explosion of emotions, everyone wants to experience vivid experiences and, at least sometimes, break out of everyday life.
It is such an emotional volcano for a woman that a passionate romance with a "bad" guy can provide. After all, this guy is very different from her, his life is a whirlpool of events and vivid impressions. He hardly sits in the office from 9 to 18, and indeed does not fit into the generally accepted framework of standards of conduct. Girls very quickly understand that it is this person who can give her those feelings and emotions that she is deprived of in everyday life. In addition, he can teach her something new, be it extreme sports or something not entirely legal, but very exciting.
It also happens that a girl simply believes that she is unworthy of more than this rude guy with a bunch of bad habits. Due to her complexes or unsuccessful past relationships, she is sure that the current option is the only one for her, and, in order not to be left alone, the girl tolerates rudeness towards herself or numerous attempts to change consciousness with the help of alcohol or drugs. Often this is superimposed on the illusion that a man can be changed, eradicated his vices and educated "for himself." Of course, in the overwhelming majority of cases, this cannot be done. And this, in turn, can result in severe psychological trauma and a final loss of faith in oneself.
"He's not your match" 6
Almost every girl who has a relationship with a “bad” guy hears these words from her close relatives or friends. Maybe subconsciously she understands this herself, but the desire to plunge headlong into the whirlpool of new bright emotions and passion, in most cases, takes over. Later, when the passion subsides and the relationship ends, the girl herself will be surprised at how she managed to contact this strange person.
Girls are crazy about "bad" guys only at a certain point in their lives. It is very problematic to build long-term family relationships with them, therefore, the same reliable, kind and caring guys are chosen as husbands. And relationships with "bad guys" are most often perceived as "mistakes of youth" or "fleeting hobbies", which, nevertheless, leave an indelible mark in the memory of a woman for life.