What Is Slut Shaming And How To Respond To Insults - Advice From A Psychologist

The public has its own norms of behavior and appearance. Every second city dweller considers it his duty to condemn a neighbor, teacher or employee for an obscene appearance. Everything falls under the distribution: too revealing clothes, bright makeup, cheeky manners, bold behavior of a person. Did something not according to the rules, and you already: "Whore!" Slatshaming involves condemnation by people of those who, in their opinion, are considered "indecent person".

The content of the article

• 1 Nobody is immune from the title of "prostitute"
• 2 Insults to the ex-second half
• 3 Snarl and envy
• 4 Slideshaming Professionals
• 5 She is not like everyone else
• 6 Womanizer means king
• 7 More than two - only for whores!
• 8 Celebrities under the "public gunfire"
• 9 Hannah Montana is not the same
• 10 women have more labels
• 11 Silence and not notice?
• 12 Psychological trauma
• 13 Evil tongues and gossip
• 14 Have your own opinion
• 15 Close people suffer
• 16 Bad Deeds
• 17 Popularity on social networks
• 18 Tragedy in the background of slitshaming
• 19 Disgusting Revenge
• 20 Female student protest parade
• 21 Code of Conduct

Nobody is safe from the title of "prostitute"

Slatshaming is often used for young women who dress up in short skirts. Grandmothers at the entrance or stern parents at school often use slut shaming in relation to teachers or young girls from the entrance. "Look, look, the prostitute has gone!" cries out a grumpy old woman after a young girl with a long braid, who had the sin of not saying hello to a pensioner.

Insults to your ex-second half2

Whores call everyone who is missing. Former husbands and wives are especially eloquent in this area. They put slut-shaming labels on the cheating husband's new girlfriend, or first spouse. Sometimes guys who dress like gays are called "whores". Perhaps the young man really belongs to sexual minorities, but modern society is accustomed to condemning a person's personal life, and throws sharp words about the victim.

Snappiness and envy3

Every woman wants to look attractive and sexy. She wears tight dresses, blouses with an open neckline, stockings, high-heeled shoes. The girl is a tasty morsel for the stronger sex, but in the eyes of her competitors she will take the honorable place of a "whore". Especially if he has a high lush chest, hidden under a tight shirt fabric, and luxurious buttocks. Such a lady, even in a coat, looks like a "loose woman."

Slideshaming professionals4

Grandmothers, sitting on benches at the entrance, occupy a high position and achieve professionalism in the field of slut shaming. In the absence of a vegetable garden, a summer residence, loving grandchildren or a shaggy four-legged comrade, elderly women day and night discuss each passing madame, complementing her appearance and life with interesting factors. Much attention is paid to young people, but the forty-year-old divorcee Zina can “burn in the fire” of sharp phrases.

She is not like everyone else5

There are other situations. At school, college or at work, among mediocre girls, one appears that overshadows the rest of the young ladies. She is beautiful, charming, sociable and stylish person. Her wardrobe, hairstyle and makeup are thought out to the smallest detail. The lady smiles sweetly and likes all the guys indiscriminately. The rest of the girls just look after them enviously and reward the “star” with an unflattering statement. Yes, and some men like to insult girls with "whores" and "prostitutes." Especially if the young lady refused the negligent boyfriend or does not pay attention to him.

Womanizer means - king6

Slatshaming is very common among the vocabulary and criticism of men in relation to women.

Representatives of the stronger sex consider themselves right when choosing their personal life. A man's bed can have a huge number of women. And this fact gives it some zest and charm. Even the word "womanizer" gives off some kind of attraction. If a guy had a relationship with a large number of girls, then he is: an alpha male, a womanizer, a stallion, and a simple handsome man. Young ladies are drawn to such "successful" sexual partners. And, guys, in the meantime, exaggerate the number of mistresses and are proud of their sexual achievements at every step.

More than two - only for whores! _8212

There is an opposite attitude to women's exploits. A large number of sexual partners characterize the lady as an easily accessible person with the inclinations of a prostitute. Men, hearing about achievements in the sexual field, will immediately hang on the girl a lot of negative labels and the contemptuous title "whore". It is permissible for a man to have a large number of partners, but not for a woman. At the same time, the beloved must own the wisdom of love and liberated sex. Such knowledge she should have, being a virgin and innocent nymph.

Celebrities under the "public gunfire" 7

Famous pop and cinema stars often come across the term "slatshaming". Their personal life is condemned by all and sundry. They attribute fictitious love affairs, partners and other juicy details. Kim Kardashian poses with great enthusiasm for the camera with naked breasts and pumped up buttocks. Despite the evil tongues, criticism and slitshaming in his address, Kim is far from being a "slut". She leads the life of a respectable wife and mother of three children. Their own appearance and the charms of the figure are the favorite pastime of a sexy woman.

Hannah Montana is not the same 8

Miley Cyrus became the victim of slitshaming at one of her performances. Change the image of a modest girl with a guitar - Hannah Montana, a teen idol, for the eccentric "Miley Cyrus", the girl shocked fans. During the concert, the singer, dressed in a revealing outfit, danced an active and somewhat erotic twerk. Such a trick entailed a lot of slander and criticism. However, Miley is not used to giving in to someone else's opinion. She looks down on the insults of others and does what she sees fit.

Women have more labels9

Every person in their life has come across slitshaming. Especially if the "human baby" is born of the fairer sex. Women get more money than men for gingerbread. They are slandered by classmates, rivals, neighbors and even girlfriends. Girls are either called indecent words, or they are credited with frank and vulgar details of their personal lives that have nothing to do with reality. Decisive ladies will not tolerate such behavior. They are trying to "throw a scarf over every mouth", both literally and figuratively. With the help of aggression, they manage to somehow fight slitshaming.

Silence and not notice? 10

Some people try not to notice the rudeness and gossip coming to their address. In general, psychologists consider this behavior to be correct. It is useless to fight with "yard gossips" in kerchiefs and gray hair. Pensioners will spread gossip even on pain of death. This is their calling. But it is worth talking to envious or scathing employees.

Psychological trauma11

Slatshaming is not just idle chatter. Offensive words and labels can bring a lot of trouble. No wonder they say that a word can kill a person. Overly sensitive and vulnerable individuals carry deep feelings in their souls when they hear unflattering reviews. They become isolated, stop communicating, for a long time and tearfully carry offense in themselves.

Evil tongues and gossip12

Slatshaming causes great damage to a person's reputation. Perhaps some young man dreams of a pretty girl, hatches plans to conquer a lady of the heart, and he is told unpleasant "factors". These can be envious phrases and information brought on the "tail of a magpie", not confirmed by reality. Let's say they report that a girl leads a dissolute life, spends time in revelry with dubious personalities. The guy gets upset, singing in his hearts a heartbreaking chorus: "… There are lilies blooming …", and never in his life fits the desired person. And, the girl, perhaps secretly dreams of him and spends her evenings knitting and reading literature.

Have your own opinion13

In the case of slideshaming, do not pay attention to the opinions of others. The behavior of a muggle guy who believed in tales of a girl's easy accessibility and became disillusioned with first love serves as proof that rumors are the most unreliable thing in the world. Whoever says what, it is necessary to form your own opinion about a person and not believe dubious stories.

Close people suffer14

Slayshaming can cause great harm to family and friends. A “dirty” and cruel label is hung on a woman or a man who has loved relatives and children. Relatives will soon find out with what words they abuse a dear person. Harsh words and unflattering statements cause great pain to relatives. Before christening a familiar person "whore", you should think about what result will follow after a rash word. For some, this is an empty phrase, but for others, painful experiences.

Bad Deeds15

Slatshaming is very dangerous among young people. The offended boyfriend spreads dirty rumors about a decent girl who repulsed his courtship, and shame and bad fame stretches after her, like a train. The guys tell each other that “this friend” can be “drunk and removed”, as she “gives to everyone” in a state of alcoholic intoxication. At one of the crowd scenes, a young man strikes up a conversation with an unsuspecting young lady, pours alcohol into her glass. Then the young man takes the girl into the room, begins to persistently pester her, not paying attention to her resistance. After all, his friend said that this "slut likes roughness and strength", and the process of rape takes place. The girl is left with tears in her eyes and a huge wound in her soul. And all the fault was the disgusting labels and rumors.

Popularity in social networks16

Slideshaming is very common on the Internet. In social networks, a huge amount of comments on photographs and authors of profiles of a negative nature are thrown out. Whole groups and communities have been created to desecrate girls and their way of life. Let's say "Shkuronadzor" ridicules and insults teenage girls. Such groups are very popular among users of the VKontakte social network.

Tragedy on the background of slitshaming17

A terrible incident happened in California. At one of the parties, a high school student was raped by three guys. At the same time, a frank video was shot on camera, in which all the details of what was happening were visible. The video of the rape was published on the social network. Insults, ridicule and malicious laughter rained down on the girl. Unable to withstand the shame, the schoolgirl committed suicide.

Disgusting Revenge18

Unfortunately, slashing is taking on a very dangerous side in the hands of attackers. Photos and erotic videos with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend are posted on the social network, out of a sense of revenge. Hacked pages, from which all "friends" are sent messages of intimate content. This behavior is very frustrating for the vulnerable "victim" of the antics.

Student protest parade19

Slitshaming must be fought. In the Canadian town of Toronto, the streets of the "Whores Parade" solemnly took place. Young girls strolled through the city, their bare hands painted with the inscription: "Whore." The procession was of a protest character. This event was organized thanks to a local police officer. He gave a lecture at the institute, after which he contemptuously added the address of the students: "You can avoid rape if you stop dressing up like whores!" Such an exclamation caused a riot among the beautiful half of Toronto. Each girl came out with a banner to participate in the process, wanting to teach an ignorant government official a lesson.

Code of Conduct20

Slayshaming must be eradicated! But at the same time, you do not need to interact with him. You should not react to rude statements in your address and respond in kind to the offender. If an indecent stigma is firmly embedded in a woman's reputation, this is a reason to think. Perhaps the lady dresses too openly, behaves defiantly or often indulges in promiscuous sex. If the lifestyle suits a person, then you should not get hung up on envious statements and sidelong glances. Moreover, to answer the offender with the same coin.