Most Popular Relationship Questions Asked In

The well-known American forum AskMen GuyQ has highlighted several questions about dating, lying, sexual partners and relationships that were most frequently asked by the site's guests throughout 2018. Psychologists and relationship experts provide answers, some of which may be of interest to our audience.

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• 1 Do people often lie about the number of their sexual partners?
• 2 What is the way to communicate to a person about your feelings for him immediately after he broke up with someone else?
• 3 Why do women attack other ladies with hostile remarks and barbs about their appearance?
• 4 Why is the young man I am dating overreacting to our friendship with another guy?
• 5 Why do women quickly find some guys boring?

Do people often lie about the number of their sexual partners? i

“People, depending on their goals, lie about the size of their lovers all the time,” says Rachel DeAlto, an interpersonal specialist and author of Flirt Without Fear. - “A typical example: a man who wants to show himself as a“stallion”exaggerates the number of partners, and a woman, so as not to seem like a whore, understates. Society has always tacitly encouraged this lie."

What is the best way to communicate your feelings for them to someone right after they broke up with someone else?

"None of us want to just fill a temporary gap in someone's relationship," says psychologist Laurel House. “To make it clear to someone that you are interested in him under such circumstances, you should act with a fair amount of diplomacy. Ask how the person is doing and hint that you are there to cheer them up. Be tactful when flirting so it doesn't look like pressure."

Rachel DeAlto advises: “Suggesting to meet a person immediately after his separation from another is possible only on condition that it is not a disaster for him. No one wants to enter into a relationship with someone who is emotionally unstable after a breakup. To survive it, some will need a day, others - a year. Start as friends, hang out together, and then see if it's worth moving on to something bigger."

Dating consultant Bela Gandhi notes: “There are many people who enjoy being in a relationship and don't want to be alone for long. If you like just such a person, then his separation from the previous partner will be an excellent condition to take an empty seat."

Why do women attack other ladies with hostile remarks and barbs about their appearance?

As a rule, women do this for two reasons: self-doubt and envy (jealousy). The objects of their caustic nagging do not necessarily become too thin or overweight, very tall or short girls. You can find flaws in order to ridicule them with anyone. Julie Spira, dating consultant and author of The Dangers of Cyber Dating, says: "This behavior is evidence of their own complexes, in this way they convince themselves that their position and appearance are superior to anyone."

When people feel comfortable and confidently accept themselves as they are, they are much less likely to judge others and are less likely to be attacked. If someone finds fault with you and thereby tries to humiliate you, know that this is not something wrong with you, but with them.

Why is the young man I am dating overreacting to our friendship with another guy?

“Everyone experiences the power of jealousy differently,” says Bela Gandhi. “Maybe your boyfriend is just jealous. Then he will be suspicious of all men with whom you will communicate often. Or it seems to him that you and your friend are not in a very platonic relationship, and one of the parties is experiencing sexual attraction. Provided that you and your friend have an extremely companionable relationship, try to spend time as a threesome from time to time, visiting different places. This can ease your boyfriend's anxiety and make sure there is no reason for jealousy.”

Why do women quickly find some guys boring? five

Laurel House replies: “Often a girl begins to consider a man boring, not because he really is, but because he does not show how interesting he is. Maybe you are trying to match some ideal, from your point of view, image and trying to look cool, calm or too fun. But this is not your real self, but this is really boring and easily forgotten."

Laurel House also notes that there is another possible reason: the lack of interpersonal chemistry, the feeling that creates excitement and attraction between two people. This chemistry is not subject to our desires, but it is not the purpose of dating, where we look for attraction and mutual interest.

Bela Gandhi says that guys are really very boring: "They just have to look for a woman who will not consider this quality a disadvantage." Gandhi also notes that dating fatigue syndrome can occur after a long search for a partner and numerous meetings, which leads to clichéd conversations and boredom when meeting each new person. “However, there is a separate group of women,” Gandhi continues, “who only feel comfortable in a dysfunctional relationship. For them, any normal guy will seem uninteresting, because they are attracted to people who treat them badly. Such women find normalcy and kindness boring, and everyone should stay away from them."