Table of contents:
- She is not free
- You have a long and serious relationship in mind2
- You are not ready3
- She is looking for love and you are looking for sex4
- She hangs too much on you 5
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Men tend to seduce a girl as quickly as possible and get to the forbidden fruit. But it is not always worth rushing with this. In some cases, your hasty actions can lead to far-reaching unpleasant consequences. This article was written based on the negative experiences of different men, whom they decided to share. But of course there won't be any names, places or dates. Let's find out together in what cases you should postpone bedding.
The content of the article
- 1 She is not free
- 2 You are planning a long and serious relationship
- 3 you are not ready
- 4 She is looking for love, and you are looking for sex
- 5 She hangs too actively on you
She is not free
If she is married, your behind-the-scenes relationship with her will not lead to anything good. But even if she is not married, but simply meets with someone else, you should seriously think not only about what consequences your erotic adventure may have, but also about why she does it.
First, you may be just a mechanism for solving her relationship problems. The girl lacks attention from her lover, and she starts an affair on the side to arouse jealousy in him. Stupid? Certainly. But do women do this? And how. And keep in mind that in this situation you will always be the extreme. Perhaps you are led by sincere feelings, and you want her to leave an indifferent partner for you, a loving and caring one. But what if it was never in her plans?
Secondly, jealous guys are different. If your harmless affair spills over into being attacked by her man, who watched you with a group of friends in a dark alley, you won't like the result, even if you are Chuck Norris. The latter, by the way, being a real master of martial arts, honestly said: "if two attack me, I will cope with them, if three, I will run away."
If you intend to take a girl away from a guy who, in your opinion, is not worthy of her, and start a serious long-term relationship with her, you should immediately dot the i's and indicate your intentions. In this case, you cannot avoid a conflict with her future ex, but at least you will not find yourself in the role of a scoundrel.
You have a long and serious relationship in mind2
If you are so concerned about this girl that you are almost ready to connect your life with her, it is better to wait until she herself wants sex. This will only emphasize the seriousness of your intentions and strengthen your position in her eyes. Imagine a situation in which her mother did not like you (and this happens very often!), And she will tell her beloved daughter that all men need only one thing from her. And on the same evening on your date, this is the "one" you want. Consider that you gave your future mother-in-law one point, when, as in the opposite case, your beloved after a romantic walk and watching a movie will return home and honestly tell her mother: “he is not like that”.
Of course, it is better to get used to each other in intimate relationships before you lead the chosen one down the aisle, but you definitely should not push her to do this. Girls also want, which means that when she is ready, no force can stop her desire to finally pull off your clothes and indulge in passion. Be patient, in this case it is always rewarded.
You are not ready3
Who said that a man always wants? Nothing of the kind, and you don't have to deceive yourself. If you don’t want intimate contact, no one can judge you for avoiding it. If your partner demonstrates resentment and calls you impotent for this, there is only one conclusion: your thoughts and feelings are indifferent to her, she just wants sex. Or do you think that only men need one? Alas, nature is somewhat more complicated.
The abstinence period can also be used to test your girlfriend's feelings and intentions. To some, such experiments may seem dastardly, but if you recognize a nymphomaniac early in your relationship, it will help to avoid many problems. Or do you think that a nymphomaniac girl is a man's real dream? After her first betrayal, you will change your mind.
In modern society, sex is greatly overrated. Advertising actively exploits a sexual theme, everything that needs to be sold is wrapped in a sexy cover, the world seems to be obsessed with sex. Pause. Sex is a normal physiological process, just like eating. There is nothing special about it, it is not a gift, not a reward, or a value. If you are not hungry, do you rush to stuff your stomach with force? It's the same with sex, if you don't feel like it, don't even try.
She is looking for love and you are looking for sex4
It's like the second item on our list, but vice versa. If a girl tells you about the seriousness of her intentions, and you just want to fuck, it would be more honest to look for another sexual partner. No matter how much they talk about female cunning and duplicity, men are no better able to behave.
If a girl is looking for a long-term relationship, and you only have an itch below the belt, there are only two honest options. In the first, you simply retreat, explaining this by the unwillingness of a serious relationship. Yes, it might break her heart, but it's better now than when it all goes too far. In the second, you honestly say that you are only looking for sex, and offer her a frivolous relationship. Yes, this can be called a way to shift the responsibility for the choice to the girl, but, firstly, you will be honest with her, and secondly, she has the right to make this choice. Including saying goodbye to you on the spot. Respect her right and don't become a scoundrel. And it's not just a matter of conscience, your reputation may emerge in the future where you don't expect it at all.
She hangs too much on you 5
Another alarm bell is the girl's excessive activity and obsession. If it is she who is constantly trying to drag you into bed, you should think about why she does it and what goals she pursues. And this will not always be an ordinary sexual desire.
First, we have already mentioned above about nymphomaniacs. They are not as rare as they seem, and if your girlfriend behaves with other men as frivolously, you should think about whether you need this relationship at all. However, if your goal is just sex, it is enough to just use protection. But there is also …
Secondly, you may be faced with an insidious seductress with far from the most honest goals. You will enter into a hasty sexual relationship with her, after which you will receive a surprise from her, from unwanted pregnancy to rape charges. The Internet is just replete with such cases with cunning swindlers who can ruin your life in one hookup. It's easy enough to fall for their bait, but with a reasonable long pause between acquaintance and sexual contact, you can at least partially insure. The fraudster in plans will not have a long-term relationship with you for several months, she needs a quick result, and therefore she will disappear pretty soon if she does not achieve it. And you will save money, time and nerves.
Thirdly, it is intrusive in itself. At first, this fanatical attitude of a girl in love may flatter you, but over time it will turn into a real nightmare. Watch the movie "Bitter Moon", which explains this topic well. However, if you are looking for a slave for BDSM practice, perhaps this is just your option. In other cases, you should seriously think about whether you need such a relationship.
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