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Everyone is used to thinking that love inspires, ennobles, makes life brighter, and, in general, carries a solid positive. But there are times in life when relationships are not needed for nothing: they interfere and destroy. These stages of human development as a full-fledged unit of society are obvious. And 90% of people, according to polls, would like to return to them and make adjustments. There are only 3 of these moments, and all of them, like a carbon copy, are the same and have ruined many lives. These periods are known to everyone:
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- 1 Where are my 17 years old …
- 2 Youth
- 3 Wise youth
Where is my 17 years old … _17_8230
Adolescence is perhaps the most emotional of all. The head is not working yet, but hormones and the heart are living their own lives. Katka Ivanova or Vaska Sidorov, suddenly become the best, life with them is painted with all the colors of the rainbow, and their own body ceases to respond to the commands of the brain.
Parents, one and all are insanely afraid of this period. The phrase "study first, and then la-mur" has already set my teeth on edge. It is understandable: everyone went through it, and everyone has something to remember.
The most important thing that goes to hell is study. The last two years have been decisive in the life of every teenager. At stake is practically the fate of man. A frantic pace of study, preparation for the exam, preparatory courses for the university. Parents pull the child out of their last strength. But the child decided to fall in love. Here is not to live, not to be! The image of a loved one stands before his eyes, in textbooks only his eyes are, and his birthday is encrypted in the equations. Thinking about something else is just a crime! And here are two options for the negative development of relations: unrequited love or the adult world with all that it implies.
Many have experienced lonely suffering. The pattern of behavior is known: a darkened room, tearful songs, hunger and a mortal body on the bed with headphones and gazing at the ceiling. Sometimes the body gets up and does something. He goes to school regularly, but instead of tutors, he wanders sadly in the park and under the windows of the object of adoration. Especially romantic natures write whole poems that can open the way to a philological or philosophical university. But this is unlikely. Gradually, academic performance is slipping to the very bottom, the maximum that shines is the nearest college. What university is there ?! “Don't tell my horseshoes,” as they say! But, time heals, everything is forgotten, all this suffering causes only a crooked smile, but life is killed in the trash. And starting all over again is many times more difficult and expensive. So it goes on the knurled: work, home, small spinogs … And only in the evenings,in a heart-to-heart conversation, dreams come to mind, accompanied by a sad sigh of disappointment. But who will remember what caused it? No one…
It also happens that teenagers are lucky! Love graciously opens its doors and takes a stunning excursion into the world of pink snot. Love-carrots, timid kisses, cute-hugs, mimics and other butterflies in the stomach. Whoa, whoa, whoa! Take it easy! First sex at 16 can end with a sad and joyful event! Pregnancy … "the groom" has grown, but the brains are not yet … Newly made parents are terrified and confused, future grandparents are in a pre-infarction state. There are two ways out: abortion or childbirth. Considering that the whole world, as if rabid, is obsessed with the "cult of children and happy motherhood," then it is quite natural that a girl will give birth. Question: well, when will a young mother study? And daddy? Yes, they themselves have not yet dried diapers, and therefore, studies and dreams of a profession will be buried under a thick layer of diapers and romper.
Conclusion: why do you need a lyuboff at such a stupid age? Come on, her forest! The price is too high …
It would seem that such a supernatural can happen in youth? But there are also pitfalls.
This is the kind of thing that can devastate a guy emotionally. If there is no excuse, then you have to go. And the guy has a girlfriend. She, of course, will portray "Yaroslavna's cry" on the platform, but the death sentence has already been signed for the relationship. 90% of couples break up because of wild jealousy and mistrust. And that's okay.
Huge opportunities for young people to get the education they need are opening the doors of universities throughout the country. And so one went to Tyumen, the other to St. Petersburg. And all would be nothing. But the heart is out of place. And endless winds begin through half the country. Parents do not want to interfere with the happiness of the young and endlessly buy tickets. But here's the bad luck. While the kids are scampering back and forth, study flies with a crash into the underworld. Debts on exams and tests are growing like a snowball. The result is sad: leaving the university with bangs and chips. Tears, hysteria, shameful return home. Okay, if both, what if one? Then it hurts and worse. Plus, if a guy flew out, then he automatically receives a summons to the army. This is already a knockout. The conclusion is obvious: what the hell is a girl for in such a crucial period? Continuous hemorrhoids …
It would seem that now you can relax. The university is behind, an interview for a prestigious position has already been passed, freedom is ahead, an excellent job, an opportunity for career growth. The guys intoxicated with freedom begin to look for a life partner. After all, it has been a quarter of a century that the earth has been trampled, most of the tasks have been completed, all that remains is to get married and have children. And then an exemplary family will delight the stern gaze of the public. But it was not there.
The girl who appears begins to take up precious time. And he does it shamelessly and brazenly. Now she was impatient to the seas, then take it with her on a business trip, then she is unhappy with late returns, then a bunch of everything that starts to get in the way. But the guy has nothing left! To establish oneself before the management and conquer the career Olympus with triumph. Fortunately, there are all prerequisites for this. But he's in love! How can he deny his beloved a trip to hot countries? No way! How can he refuse and come home early because today is some kind of date for the first kiss, and a table is booked in a cafe? Again, nothing! And the management is not asleep and perfectly notices that a promising employee is increasingly asking for time off, asking for an extra vacation and writing endless statements at his own expense. The management draws its own, very hard-hitting conclusions.
And then, bang, like a bolt from the blue: the wedding and the heir. All! You can forget about your career. The child will take up a lot of free time. Instead of sitting quietly over the documents, you will have to warm bottles and change diapers. And a timid request not to interfere and to give work will come across the angry glances of his wife. So the guy will remain a middle-level manager with eternal reproaches for the lack of money, it’s good if he doesn’t go to taxis. And he could have made a brilliant career. And by the age of 30, become a mature, strong, self-sufficient man with a reliable rear behind his back and an excellent financial backlog.
One nuance. Of course, this all sounds gloomy. Relationships are necessary and important. But you need to think with your head, not with your spinal cord. And if the female specimen is more pulling to the bottom, and does not inspire, if the theme of the "Decembrist's wife" is incomprehensible and distant for her, then it is not worth spending time on such a mumzel. She will continue to drag her to the bottom all her life. But a girl who is strict not only to herself and her life, but also knows how to give a magic pendal, is simply worth her weight in gold! But it's hard to find such people: they also know for sure, they don't need a guy for nothing now! They build their lives.