Video: What Determines The Psychological Well-being Of A Couple
We are used to the opinion that the more similar people are, the more successful and happy they can create. It makes sense, doesn't it? If you have a lot in common, you will definitely have more fun together.
This idea has been supported by social psychologists for decades: the people we like the most are the ones we think are the most like us.
And yet, the story is not as simple as it seemed earlier. Matching views, tastes, and values alone do not promise us happiness in relationships.
New work of scientists from the University of Michigan studied 2578 pairs. The research has been going on since 1968! Psychologists have worked with people who have been married for 20 years. And they managed to find out what the psychological well-being of the couple depends on!
The work was based on the Big Five method, which includes the following scales:
- openness to new experience (openness to try new things),
- conscientiousness (organization and attention to detail),
- extraversion (sociability and sociability),
- the ability to accept (the ability to take care of yourself and others),
- neuroticism (inability to cope with stress and frequent mood swings).
What did you manage to find out?
People who are more conscientious and extroverted are happier in general and in relationships as well. That is, in order to create a happy couple and enjoy life with a loved one, those qualities that attract a partner are important, and only then the similarities between partners!
The researchers also found that people with different views and habits create relationships of a higher quality. These are the so-called "complementary" relationships. It makes some sense that "opposites attract."
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