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In any, even the most loving couple, a crisis comes over time: passion leaves, romance becomes a rare guest, visiting only on February 14, and even then not always. This is an inevitable stage that one has to go through. At such moments, couples cool down, alienate.
The content of the article
- 1 Does romance only exist at the beginning of a relationship?
- 2 Fall asleep - no quarrels
But there are always ways to improve relationships. They are very simple, but you need to remember one small nuance. In a relationship, there are always two and this is the work of two, and nothing else. If only one wants to change something, and the second “is already normal”, then all efforts will be in vain.
So where do you start? It's time to remember what brings joy. If a girl loves chocolate, or a guy loves fried dumplings (why not), there is always the opportunity to go to the store on the way home. And for a long time you wrote insignificant SMS about nothing? After all, the fire has died out, and now the only messages are "buy bread, milk."
In everyday life, there is no way without it, but why forget about the pleasant? Why not send a dear person a few warm words in the middle of the working day that will cheer you up and make you smile? It seems like something funny, childish and ridiculous, but it is cute and will fill both with warm feelings.
Usually couples show tenderness only in the first months, they are ready not to come off for days. However, physical contact is always necessary. Cuddling has been scientifically proven to release hormones such as oxytocin and dopamine, which are responsible for pleasure and attachment. Plus, it is very calming and makes you remember and once again feel such a familiar smell of a loved one.
Of course, sex is not the main thing in love and should not come first. But this is a very important component, and if its quantity tends to zero, it's time to fix it. The internet is full of all sorts of hot ideas, techniques for a passionate night. There are a lot of different courses, and erotic massage in a sensual atmosphere will relieve you of the problem of lack of sex for a long time.
Is romance only at the beginning of a relationship? I
Feelings could well cool down, but you can try to rekindle them. To do this, it is enough to regularly go somewhere together (only two people, at least any gadgets), and eventually translate this into a tradition. A romantic evening will remind you of what happened at the very beginning, how exciting it was. Of course, after several years it is very naive to wait for butterflies in the stomach. Now the next level has come, no less beautiful, albeit not so bright.
If a couple has already passed to the status of young parents (or has been in this status for several years), it is all the more useful for them to take a break from everyday life. There are always grandparents, aunts, friends, nannies, in extreme cases, who will agree to spend one evening with the child, and at this time walk around the city, go to a cafe, and finish everything in the bedroom: they probably have already forgotten what it is like this is when you do not need to worry about the child waking up and you need to be quiet.
In addition to romantic dates, it is important to introduce regular joint entertainment into your life. An excellent way to improve relationships will be any games: tennis, billiards, bowling; or just laugh together. You can joke over something or over yourself. Everyone knows that laughter prolongs life, and in fact also prolongs love.
Interestingly, almost everyone who was asked about the most important qualities in a partner definitely noted a sense of humor in one of the first three places. And if there is a joke that only two people can understand, it will be just aerobatics. Of course, it is not necessary to joke evil or make fun of a person.
A normal, mature love relationship cannot be built without mutual respect. After all, both are already accomplished individuals, with their own goals, desires, achievements. You cannot be frivolous or ridicule someone's goals and achievements. No one knows how much effort it cost him, even if from the outside it seems a trifle.
Fall asleep - no quarrels2
Many couples resort to such a trick: no matter how strong the quarrel is, resolve all issues before bedtime, in no case should you go to bed in an angry state, with a feeling of resentment. Everyone recognizes how pleasant it is to fall asleep in an embrace, so is there really an insignificant reason to deprive yourself of such pleasure?
Bringing home the annoyance of work is an extremely bad idea. All the negative - to leave it there, relatives are not to blame, that "the boss is a fool" and they are not at all obliged to listen to all this. Everything, period, and this is not discussed. But this is about work issues.
If we talk about domestic problems, the game of silence is absolutely superfluous here (girls are very fond of sinning with this, hoping that the man himself will understand and solve everything). If any discontent arises, everything must be discussed, discussed. Only the conversation should be in the nature of a dialogue, not accusations or groans
You also need to be able to listen and hear the interlocutor. It is quite possible that he is also not happy with everything and may express some claims. Hearing about your flaws is not very pleasant, but no one is perfect and that's okay. In order not to look for magical ways to improve relationships, it is important to be able to negotiate and seek a compromise.