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Envy is an innate (imagine) or acquired feeling, which is perceived by the envious person himself as "the injustice of the world" and is manifested by inner anxiety. But, as psychologists say, women often envy what they underestimate in themselves.
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- 1 What exactly are girls jealous of?
- 2 And what is the root cause of this?
What exactly are girls jealous of? I
According to research, the majority of girls (about ninety out of a hundred) envy the beauty of the other woman, and almost 87% add the "ideal" figure of other young ladies here. "It's all about laziness," say popular fitness trainers. After all, it is much easier to envy and shower others with caustic words than working on yourself every day in the sweat of your brow. “Improve yourself, and you will have no time to envy others,” they say
In our emancipated age, women also envy the good work of their girlfriends. Although, many sociologists argue that it is more correct to talk about good earnings and the spiritual situation with this earnings. Because successful kept women are envied no less, and sometimes even more, than successful female entrepreneurs. In addition, in addition to remuneration, a team that is comfortable for work plays an essential role
By the way, financial independence ranks third in our ranking of envy. Good money, according to many young ladies, opens up a whole range of prospects and opportunities
No matter how much men want to be the center of the universe, only 40% of the respondents envy the increased attention of men, and such envy takes only fourth place on the list. Probably all the same women, as more monogamous creatures, do not want the attention of "everyone", but are looking for the attention of "one and only"
Another amazing envy is for beautiful and expensive clothes. Women themselves believe that it helps to transform not only externally, but also internally. After all, a young lady so amazingly dressed cannot be a loser
- Healthy and successful children are also the pride of the fair sex. True, only about thirty percent mentioned them. After all, not all interviewed young ladies have them yet. And theirs are always the best, why envy some strangers!
- And only at the very end of the list of female envy is a successful marriage. Surprisingly, it is priced much lower than finance and clothing! The paradox of the modern woman. But, most likely, such a statement is based on the positioned tendency of men to cheat. What is the envy in this case? Therefore, such a feeling for having a wealthy and providing boyfriend is several times greater than for an official marriage.
What is the root cause of this? 2
Why do women start to envy at all? Psychologists say that the reason for this may be too critical education and socially imposed rules. In fact, the girl gets more comments. After all, it is not permissible for a girl to get dirty, throw things around, play naughty and fight. That which is more forgivable to boys is less acceptable to a little lady.
Parents often put someone as an example, comparing the baby. And a vulnerable and more emotional female nature takes this very painfully. Therefore, when raising your daughter, do not cultivate envy with her. No need to say that the neighbor is a better student. Then your grown up beauty will not envy the best income of another neighbor. Do not compare her appearance so that she does not envy her friend's clothes and figure. In short, build confidence in her.
If you yourself are constantly the victim of jealousy, try to simply not flaunt your successes and achievements. And if you do exhibit, take negative and caustic statements as additional "like" and interest.
Although, many girls have long learned not only to live, feeling constant envy, but even miss it. And if dozens of sidelong glances do not accompany their new boots or jacket, then it’s time to change the stylist … After all, it is envy that is the litmus test of the fact that they are still “at the top of the charts” of successful and sought-after young ladies. So in this case they do not want to part with other people's "toads".
And psychologists advise to start with yourself and "choke your green." After all, the less your experiences, the less envy you will have. Kind and sincere words of compliments to ill-wishers disarm the best. And, if a woman sees your sincerity, you want to envy you much less than to be friends.